Binge watching murder mysteries on TUBI.

Two so far. A Vigilante and Big Driver. Both about abused women who go ape shit on their abusers. A Vigilante is particularly disturbing. It is about an abused woman who starts resolving issues for other abused women. I cheered her on but the circumstances of her situation and the women and kids she helps

What stands out are the similarities between the movies and so many SP marriages where repeat emotional, financial, residential, etc, etc, etc abuse happens and it is tolerated for far too long.

I truly hope that no one is expercing physical abuse along with the rest of the abusive shit show.

Our very good friend who recently divorced after 30+ years suffered everything but the physical abuse. She was petrified that he would take that step next.

She is still a shell of her former self. He bought a big beautiful half wolf half dog that is nearly twice her weight, a house but sadly not far from their marital home, and she does low paying charity non profit work. I fear she will let his crap consume her.

Are many of the perpetrators in repeatedly tense blended family situations abusers of their SP SO?

I'm thinking that the answer is sadly yes. In far too many blended family dynamics.

Thoughts?

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I had it out last night

And just told him how effed up thw whole dynamic is.

Trouble is its far too common. The abusers fool everyone into believing they are good people.

Ill have to check out tubi

TUBI is free. So was Peacock

TUBI is free. So was Peacock until I registered so I could save and in process things I was watching. Now, to do anything in Peacock I have to subscribe.

TUBI has the same hook. Though I will not bite on that one.

Thanks @Rags. My thoughts are

Thanks @Rags. My thoughts are you are right on. Somehow these abusive situations with stepparents are normalized sometimes even celebrated. It's a very strange world we live in.

I've been spending a lot of time parceling out behavior and understanding unhealthy dynamics - I used to be oblivious to the bad stuff or let things slough off me. Nowadays, I see it clearly. I don't always react but I WATCH it like a hawk. I watch them and I don't excuse any of the behavior anymore. They do not get a "pass" for the abuse but I know I don't control their actions and behavior- only mine.

My biggest challenge now is to work on not getting absorbed by the negative feeling I have for the decade+ of abuse from SKIDs and the neglect that I experienced. I try to view it as I am looking into a crystal ball at their interactions and I am somewhat removed. Watching and observing has made me realize just how bad they really have been to me. I have a lot of clarity these days and I tend to not see things with rose colored glasses any longer. It's probably going to be a lifetime of understanding and working on all this but that's part of my life's journey.

I totally agree

The weak boundaries
The entitlement
Coming in 3rd or lower...(not prioritizing marriage)
Arguing and gaslighting when called out for these unsavory behaviors
Convincing unsuspecting people to marry them just to use them for free housing, free and on-demand nannying of feral skids, free maid service, free and on-demand seggs, free therapy, etc.
And more

{coming from a heterosexual woman's perspective} I'm comvinced 80% of single/divorced dads are dysfunctional af when it comes to parenting/co-parenting with exes.

If I could author the DSM, I'd include "Disneyland Parenting" as a personality disorder

I got PTSD (every weekend my anxiety went through the roof) dealing with a Disneyland Dad, manipulative ex-wife, and multiple ferals .... to the point I will NEVER live with a dude with dependent kids.

PREACH!

OMG everything Lillywy00 said. Everything.

Edit... She bought the dog

Edit... She bought the dog/wolf.

Sorry for the typo.

Some additional information. They never had kids.

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