I am soon-to-be step mother. I have been in a relationship for 3 hrs & we plan to get married next year. When we met, I had 1 girl of my own (now 9) & he had 2 (now 10 & 4). A year ago we had a little girl together. I am so glad that I found this site, because I have so many questions, thoughts and I don't have anyone to talk to that will understand. It's sound weird because you would expect my fiancé to understand because he is a step parent himself. he is one of those "laid back" kind of people. Sometimes too laid back!