Christmas holidays - need your advices
I know it's a little bit early but i need your help to organize next christmas holidays.
Before having our BS, christmas holidays were organized around SS9 wellbeing and wants. DH and BM families decided that SS needed to see both families on 24/25th to be happy.
Typically, DH and I were in with my familly for the 24th while SS was with BM. On the 25th, we used to pick up SS at BM (1 hour drive) and go to MIL (another 1 hour driving). We used to spend the day at MIL and then go back to our home (another 1 hour driving).
To please SS, we used to drive 3 hours on the 25th in order to let him see everyone (SIL, MIL and us).
Now we have a baby, and i absolutely don't want my son to be in a car for 3 hours on Christmas day. Plus DH have cut ties with ILs, and our baby doesn't have anything to do with them.
So, i'm wondering if you have any ideas/suggestions/advices of how could we manage christmas holidays.
Knowing that :
1/ i don't want my baby goes to MIL or SIL
2/ we don't want SS visiting ILs during our times with us, nor just before.
3/ i want our BS spend christmas with his loving family (ie my parents) but SS is not allowed with them (because i want to protect my family from his allegations lies)
Any idea on how we can adjust ?