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SS in hospital when I have baby?

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Wed, 10/16/2013 - 8:14am

MIL asked the other day if we'd like her to pick up SS13 and bring him to the hospital after I have my baby. DH just said "I don't care what you do." and I said nothing. I never say anything to the ILs about SS because I don't want them to realize that I don't like my SS.

So, I don't want him there. I don't really want many people there at all. I want this to be about DH, me and our new baby. MIL had to involve SS in the baby shower, she wants him to come to the hospital and I just know that she'll feel the need to involve him in anything we try to do with/for our daughter.

SS coming to my family events

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Mon, 09/16/2013 - 1:55am

This upcoming weekend, I have an important family event to go to. It is also DH's weekend to have SS13. I would really like for DH to come with me but he said he would need to bring SS. The problem with this is that anytime SS has come with to my family events, he's been very annoying. Like more annoying than I've ever seen him. And I can tell that my family is annoyed too. It makes me feel really embarrassed. So at one point I said to myself, no more SS at my family events.

SS sick during visitation while I'm pregnant

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Sun, 09/08/2013 - 11:00am

Ok, so I get that DH wants to see his kid. But when SS13 was over and had the flu when I was in my first trimester, I told DH I'd prefer not to risk getting sick while I'm pregnant. Here I sit, far away from SS hearing him sniffle and feeling a bit peeved. Do you think I'm overreacting? My hormones have been making me a bit emotional lately so I'm probably just having a bit of a bad mood moment. Either way, the kid leaves in a couple hours so that's good. I'm going to be pissef if I get sick though.

DH turning polite SS into an ingrate?

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Sun, 08/11/2013 - 9:15am

Last night DH bought dinner and made it for SS and me. When SS got up to get his food, he thanked DH for it. DH said that he didn't have to thank him and that it was his job to feed SS.

Am I wrong in thinking that this kid should thank him for everything? DH works hard to provide for SS and spends a great deal of money on him. I think SS should thank him everyday. My parents told me I should thank them when they make or buy dinner for me. What was DH thinking? Of course he should be thanked, right?!

Incidentally, when I thanked him, he just told me "you're welcome."

Minor annoyances: SS eating my ice cream

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Tue, 07/30/2013 - 10:51am

On Saturday, after dinner, SS asked DH if he could have some ice cream. DH said sure but then looked at me awkwardly, asked if it was ok, and said that it was the last of the ice cream ( which means they ate some the night before too). DH probably knew I wouldn't say no because I'm too passive. I also didn't want to act like a spoiled kid who won't share.

DH swears at my cats so I can swear at SS, right?

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Wed, 07/17/2013 - 7:58am

Kind of a silly rant, but here goes anyway...

So DH has this nasty habit of saying things to the cats like "you're a f-ing piece of s@!$" or just calling them nasty things. Now, I love my cats more than most humans and when he says stuff like this to them it really, really bothers me. I believe that they don't understand what he's saying and he is nice to them otherwise by petting them a lot and feeding them first thing in the morning and cleaning up after them. So I don't think he hurts them in any way. But I feel bad to hear him say those things to animals I truly care about.

Nursery now, SS's room no more

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Wed, 07/10/2013 - 10:09am

DH and I are expecting our first baby together this fall. We decided to move SS13 out of his room, because it's right next to ours and he'll take the extra room downstairs. We've already started the moving/renovation process and I'm so excited! Anyway, a few people have questioned our decision to do this. Like it's totally unfair to SS and we should figure something else out. I think the thought of not having a room for a baby that will be at home 24/7 right next to the parents is ridiculous.

Child support ARRRGGH!

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Wed, 07/03/2013 - 8:18pm

I'm sitting here thinking about our financial future. DH and I are expecting our first child together. He already pays over $500 a month for SS13. He was never married to bm and SS was the result of a ONS. I can't help but feel so bitter about this situation. I did our state's support calculator awhile ago and found that his obligation would only be reduced by about $20 when our child is born. I also hypothetically calculated what he would owe me if we got divorced. It was over $650. Yet if we stay married, the state says my baby is worth 20 bucks.

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