New Update: CPS, BM, & Divorce
Unfortunately, this is not a happy update about where things are after about 2 weeks since CPS got involved. So let's start there first, the CPS worker did her home visit on Thursday. She looked around for about 3 minutes and then told my bf there is no evidence of abuse and since her staff meetings are on Thursday mornings, by Friday (this Friday now) that the investigation should be done. Apparently, she reports what she found in her investigation, but it is not her call on whether things are founded or unfounded. So now it's another week of waiting since unfortunately she rescheduled 3 times, but the investigation will be at least be done prior to the 30 days it could take. So I suppose this good news, but not being optimistic, until it is officially closed and we get the news whether founded or unfounded. They did talk about the class she referred him to. Apparently it is more of a save her a** sort of thing. Since this is now the 3rd report to CPS by BM (yes the counselor called this time, but counselors do not look at a child's butt on visits, BM showed the counselor this), even though each time everything was unfounded, if there was to be another report and there was abuse found, the CPS worker would not look good for not referring my bf to anything and basically looking the other way is how it would look to her higher ups.
Now on to the update about custody and the children. So BM still is not letting my bf see the children, he has via text message proof of her continually denying him to see them. He also texted her on Thursday night asking to talk to them any time on Friday on the phone then. She did not answer until Friday night saying they were "involved in a group activity" that she would not take them away from,etc., then finally they agreed 8:30 Saturday morning he could talk to them on the phone. He calls, he gets to talk to the younger one (2 y.o) and she says the older child (4 y.o) is still sleeping. Now I have been in the children's lives for a year and the older one has never slept later than 7 am, usually is up by 6 am, so definitely furthers the fact that BM does not instill a bedtime for the children. Finally, she gets the older child up and her on the phone, the child is crying asking for daddy and saying she wants to see him, etc. Anytime he has gotten on the phone with the children since all of this the 4 y.o. cries for him basically the whole time. After a few minutes the BM got on the phone, my bf re-asked when he could see them and she tells him that even after the CPS investigation is closed she isn't going to let him see them then either. Aka until the judge orders she must let him see the children, she will refuse to do so. I reminded my bf that he should not be talking to her on the phone at all because now she's saying all this stuff and it is not in writing. From now on when he calls, if the BM tries to talk he is going to tell her he will only discuss things via text message and if she tries to continue talking, he is going to hang up on her.
More on custody, but also on the divorce front. My bf went to see his lawyer on Friday and we got zero good news. The person in the law office who was supposed to have all this delivered, did not deliver it to the BM's lawyer, but rather posted it at the wrong address of BM. Which BM purposefully gave the wrong apartment number so her address was incorrect. So the whole 21 days (which was up the beginning of last week) means NOTHING and the lawyer has to start this whole process over again. So on August 13, the 21 days will be up again. We are FURIOUS because another month was wasted and it is not my bfs fault, just him getting screwed over again. In the meantime, there will be a pendente lite hearing (been spelling it wrong this whole time) on August 2 to have a temporary custody order in writing. So that will be good at the very least because until this process is done, at least there is a written order of when each person is to have the children and there is no more of this nonsense (I know there will still be some nonsense, but you all get what I mean). So either will go the default judgement route if the BM and her lawyer do not respond in this 21 day timeline or they will respond and my bf is requesting for mediation. So by August 13, there should be some sort of decision on what route this will take.
There has been all sorts of nasty texts from BM in response to my bf trying to see and talk to the children. In one of her texts she says how she cannot trust him to coparent with her because he wants nothing to do with her and does not want to live anywhere near her and that is why she is not letting him see the children. To which he responded that coparenting involves communication however she is refusing to tell him who or where is the children's caregiver while she is at work and denying him to see them. How the children not going to daycare which they have been at for over a year is not good for them is breaking their routine, etc. She also at one point says how 50% of one child is his to which he responds no, 50% of both children is ours. She then says how that is not true biologically, etc. So at the very least, I think there is a good amount pointing towards her trying to alienate the kids for the temporary custody hearing. However, I am DONE being optimistic after it has been nothing but constant bad news. We are planning on having my bf text the BM this week requesting to see the children or at least the youngest on/for her birthday which is next week. Do not think she will agree to this, however the CPS investigation will be done then and it will not look good for BM to be denying my bf to see his child for her birthday especially with the hearing next week too. Again, who knows though.