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Raise your hand if you saw this coming..Yea DH and I did

halo1998's picture

In the 20/21 year of COVID.  SD's school (which is in our district) went to a hybrid model.  One week in school..one week out.  There were some intermixed times when it was 100% remote but never 100% in school.  Except for now.   SD's school district decided that starting last week all kids would be in school 100% of the time.  No more remote...THANK THE HEAVENS...or what ever diety you choose.  SD and remote do not work well.  She is not a self starter at all.

Of course remote days were on Beaver's week and not DH's week.  Oh joy...we quickly learned that remote work at Beavers would not get done and SD's grades quickly hit gutter status.  SD and GWR would go to Beaver SR and Mr. Beaver SR's house and proceed to sleep all day and do nothing.  Then go back to Beaver's and stay up all night on her phone...and still no remote was done.

DH then enacted his first right of refusal clause and told Beaver he would get SD during the day while Beaver was at work and SD was on a remote week.  DH has immediate first right of refusal when the other parent is at work.  This clause was to f* Dh back in the day but DH has worked from home for years now...so it only F's with Beaver...that's a karma mini bus right there. 

The best part of all this was DH had to drive 20-25 minutes to pick up SD from Beaver's house every morning.  Meanwhile Beaver drove to our town for work everyday and her work is about 2 miles from our house.  But, because DH wanted SD he had to drive to get her.  Oh...whatever there Beaver...DH was willing to do that for SD.

Today was the first Day of 100% in school that was on Beaver's week.   When school is in person Beaver has to drive SD to our house to catch the bus.  Beaver does not live our district so either she drops off SD or she drops her to school. Either one..don't care which.

Raise your hand if you think Beaver forgot DH would not be picking up SD this morning and woke up late.  ***RAISES HAND**..Yep..Beaver got up late..woke SD up late and then proceeded to tell SD..oh well your late.  I guess your Dad will have to take you to school since you won't make the bus.  No accepting of responsibilty for SD..nothing.  Just Oh well...

 

SAY WHAT THERE BEAVER...why is it DH's problem to get SD to school because your LATE.  Sd got her and was PISSED at her mom.  She is like she doesn't care about me....she was mad because she was late for work, but that is her fault for not getting up.  In essence it was SD's fault Beaver was late because Beaver had to drop her off to our house.  SD was ticked because she had things to do this morning before school, etc.  (Part of this is on SD because she should have set her alarm to get up and not rely on her mom)

DH did take SD to school however it made DH late to a meeting he had this morning.  Beaver just assumes DH has nothing to do.  In this case he had a meeting with a client this morning he had to put off...lucky for DH the client has 6 kids of his own..so he gets it.

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advice.only2's picture

We had the same problem with BD15 she was relying on us to wake her up for school and I was like nope you have a phone with an alarm. So she has 5 different alarms set that start at 6 am...I don't mind hearing Baby Shark every morning as long as it means its getting her a$$ up...and yes that's what she chose as her alarm because it's annoying and will wake her up.

MissK03's picture

I HATE mornings. I'm on my own 3 days a week to get everyone up. (Myself, skids, dogs) SD is easy she gets right up. The boys..... every 5 minutes.. get up, get up, get up. Then I start getting pissed. I drop the boys off on mondays so I say in my car at 7 or I'm leaving without you.   We left at 7:03 this morning so not bad. 
 

SD is in 100% full time and the boys are only mon/Tuesday and every other wed. I wish they were full time 100%. 
 

On the days they are remote that I have to wake them up I just tell them 10 times and then say don't be late for class!! BYE! SS17 has missed a ton of classes but....*shoulder shrugs* Not my problem. 

CLove's picture

Just got a text from munchkin SD14 this am - the hotspot data is used. And she logged into class late. Because TT cannot seem to figure out how to get money to pay for internet. Because her neurologist wont release her to get a job. Yeah, sure. I got the "we are in a tough spot with money". Enmeshed as always. I texted back "YOU are not in a tough spot financially".

Hard to overcome that programming of TT making her problems everyone elses problem.