H talked to SS:
1) SS says he’s known since he was 7. He didn’t want to say anything because Trump was president and he had heard he and his people were mean about it.

2) He thinks he’s a girl because he likes some “girl things” like gymnastics. He thinks girls clothes would be more comfortable because they’re looser and not as hot.

3) He doesn’t really mind that he can’t wear girl clothes to school, though, and doesn’t mind if people use “he/him” instead of “she/her.”

4) He says he’s also pansexual.

The saga with SS10, BM's different parenting philosophy, etc., continues.

So, yesterday DH finally had a talk with SS about the closet incident. SS admitted to doing it. Said he was asleep and woke up in the closet. I guess sleep walking? I've known some people who did some pretty odd things while asleep.

Whatever. I asked DH, "so, what was his explanation for not cleaning it up?" Blanks stare. "Oh. I didn't ask that."

Good grief. I told him that whatever the reason behind the incident, SS needs to learn to own up to things and to CLEAN IT UP. Consequences. Punishment. Something. He does whatever and there's NO follow-up.

So, today, SS10 went back to BM's house. This evening, DH went into his room to put something away and then yelled. He found -- well -- let's just say that there was "solid" evidence that SS had used the back of his closet as a toilet at some point in the last few days.

There was a problem a couple of years ago where SS was going in the shower or in his pants. Then nothing. Then, a couple of weeks ago, the shower happened again (once -- SS was still here so DH made him clean it). Now this.