Ugh. DH is upset with me again. I thought it was the pressure of parenting and step-parenting together, maybe DS is annoying, but now that the skids are not around as much (college and one in HS with a job), one of the triggers is the skids being around. 

And it's not that I get upset they are coming. They've turned into pleasant young men I can talk to and joke with. DH doesn't seem on edge when DS is around (since he's been around a whole week before the skids and DH was fine).

Nope. He cannot identify and compartmentalize his anxiety (or hunger--there've been a few episodes of that too). I have zero idea why he's anxious with the skids around but it happened at his bday a few weeks ago and it happened yesterday. 

Hes mad at me for something I said. I could have said the same thing four days ago and things would be fine. I'm ready for it and I've tried to be careful about how I say things. But he seems to be looking for a fight to let out his emotions. 

The kids are all fine and no one else is being weird. I know he's done this all along, I just wish he'd recognize it and control himself. Yes, I've tried helping him to realize it at non stressful times but that doesn't work either. One little thing can set it off and that happened yesterday.