Where to start, have been with this guy for nearly 3 yrs and recently became engaged but having 2nd thoughts purely because of kids. My profile explains me but all in all I have 5 (to the same father )and one has a disability. We are hard working, honest and a well liked bunch in the community. I am not blinkered about myself or kids and know we are not perfect all the time (that’s For sure). My Fiance has an ex and it is at times highly conflicting with nasty words and kids involved in the verbal onslaught. As a result we as a family struggle with their behind the scenes nasty comments and treatment to my family. In front of the Father butter would not melt in their mouths and they behave exactly as he expects them it’s almost mechanical. An anger now is developing towards the kids and an intolerance to be in their company. It is incredibly hard to pinpoint it to the Dad and in no way would he believe it and accept it. I sound terrible in this but I have tried to speak privately to them but they do not change and the atmosphere is so different when he’s kids are not with him, even the father is different. My family are upfront and what you see is what you get even my partner sees them as showing their true emotions. I am a great believer that out in the public we must show respect and understanding but also believe we all have our moments too. Whilst I understand we all have diffferent parenting aspects I can’t cope with angel presenting kids in one aspect but behind the scenes a different case that god forbid if I told my fiance.