hahahah i totally understand your feelings!

i was just going to write a post on this very subject. the BM has only met me over the weekend! i thankfully avoided her for almost 2 years.. but my DH was at work on a sat morning and i heard a knock at the door, open the door in my dressing gown and shaggy hair.. and there was BM standing at the door with the kids, needing to pick some stuff up that they forgot! i almost died, i always pictured the moment we would meet i would look amazing and perfect, but oh well you cant always win.

i am 15 years younger then my partner, i am educated, fun and everyone on his friends told my DH on his wedding day to his first wife he should run for the hill.. i've never heard of someone being so negative and nasty until i heard all the stories from friends and family!

So now she has found eye, im a small, blonde, blue eyed girl almost half her age! the rules have totally changed... the kids came over yesterday, and they didn't even speak to me or make eye contact. i normally have a great relationship/friendship with them. and i truly believe BM has said something to them.

i have done nothing but be kind and respectful to this woman... but at the end of the day!! i have a AMAZING DH, i'm pretty, educated, positive attitude and have manners and everyone loves me more! so i win!!!

I win because I have my degree, DH & I own a beautiful home despite BM's attempts to ruin DH's credit. And, most of all because even though I'm pregnant & really showing, I'm still thinner than BM! Hahaha!

I've actually been thinking about this a lot myself. I do actually go through the process of reminding myself of these things. It's important to recognize our strengths and what makes us uniquely wonderful.

I finished my degree and have continued on with my Masters. I've been quickly accelerating in my career. I'm ambitious, motivated and self-sufficient. I take initiative to learn the things I do not know and I don't expect anyone else to solve my problems for me. I have goals and I achieve them. I'm honest but I also know my own flaws and I work to improve myself.

I tend to surround myself with positive people who have a great outlook on life. Optimism breeds optimism and at the end of the day, I'd rather feel appreciative and happy for all that I have in life.

I've had some awful things happen to me in my life but it doesn't define me as a person. I choose not to be a victim. Everything good in my life I have earned. I don't make excuses, I find solutions.

I'm a strong, sexy and intelligent woman with a wonderfully caring man who loves me more than anything. We have an unbelievably partnership that doesn't stifle one another.

I win.

I win because dh actually MARRIED me after almost 3 yrs of knowing me and he was with BM for 7 yrs the first two yrs he loved her but after sd was born, he was only with her for sd! I actually make him happy, bm is a tomboy and never wears her hair down. Her hair is actually pretty too she jus never does anything with it. She dropped out of high school, I'm about to be working on my bachelors degree. She has no job and jus lives off the govt!