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Very relieving conversation with SS!

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The last time SS was here, bf sat down with him and talked about things that biomom claims were bothering SS, which then led to other topics related to biomom, dad, me, and the situation as a whole. The conversation went very well! I was suprised and relieved at the outcome...

Biomom has been claiming that SS has nightmares related to and because of me. Any time he has to be around me, she says, the nightmares are worse. Well, bf sat down with SS and asked him what his nightmares were about. You'll never guess.

Zombies!

Well, you were all right...biomom turned psycho again.

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Remember when I said that biomom had spoken to a mutual friend and decided that she was going to make an effort to work with me and be nice? Well, everything was fine for a week or so, but for the past few days it's back to being just like it was before. I should have known. Really, I kind of did...I've come to realize that there may be small breaks in her irrational and crazy behavior in which she can bring herself to be civil and cooperative...but they don't last for long and are always followed by even more ridiculous and immature behavior.

Pre-Visitation Jitters

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Every time visitation day rolls around, I get a little antsy. Last time ss was here, bf actually talked to ss about me and asked him how he feels about me. SS told him that he really likes me but what he doesn't like is going home and dealing with his mom being mad because I'm around. I'm very happy about this! Now I know for a fact that ss likes me and biomom is just making stuff up when she goes on her rants and tries to tell me that he hates me.

Communication Issues

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Something that is a small problem now, but I could see as becoming a large problem down the road. Biomom calls and leaves messages every now and then, maybe twice a week or more, asking dh if he'll call and talk to his son about this or that, or most usually that there's this major problem that he needs to call and address. Of course, almost 100% of the time we can assume that what she's claiming is bogus and the kid is completely fine, and there really was no reason or need for the call.

Biomom may have finally got it..

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I had been trying to get through to her that things would be much easier if she would work with me instead of against me. When she would send me spiteful emails I would respond in an encouraging and positive way, explaining that this type of behavoir makes things harder and I am willing to cooperate with her to make things easier if she can basically get over herself and do the same. She spoke with a friend of hers (who happens to be a neutral party and therefore also a friend of mine), who told her that I was right.

Love/Hate Relationship with Bio-Mom

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Ok, so most of the time this woman is hell-bent on my destruction. Most of you probably have read my "Did I mention she's psycho?" post (if not I suggest you do to get a little background). It's hard to explain it, but every now and then she'll kind of switch modes temporarily and treat me as if I wasn't the woman dating her ex, but rather a friend that she can confide in and let her feelings out to.

Here we go again...

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Every weekend after visitation I can guarantee that I'll get some sort of email or phone call from bio mom. This weekend the email went like this:

From now on I will just pack ss's lunch along with everything else to save you two the hassle of having to feed him. I’d rather pack his lunch than for you to either order food for him or feed him. Stay away from MY son!

Did I mention she's psycho?

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Or rather, maybe it should be worded "Need I mention...". All of our respected bio moms seem to share a lot of similarities, and exhibit a lot of the same behaviors. I don't want to jump in and say that mine takes the cake, but I'm sure you'll agree when I say she's pretty far gone. Story time!

So, I started dating bf many moons ago. At that time she regarded me less like a threat and more like an annoyance. She didn't bother herself wasting too much time on me, I guess she felt that I could never "make it" with her ex.

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