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What does your ideal dream life look like?

PeanutandSons's picture

Submitted by PeanutandSons on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 1:41pm

I'm sure we all fantisize about what our ideal life would be, I know that do. Like what if I won the lottery... My "dream life" has changed over the years and I was thinking about it a bit last night. The skids haven't been a part of my fantasy future life for a while...they used to be there...but not anymore. But a realization has surprised me.....dh isn't there anymore either.

I don't know if its that I know that duh and the skids are complete package deal (bio moms are worthless and out of the picture) so the only way to get them out of the fantasy is to get rid of dh too......or do I really not even want to being with dh anymore?

In my idealized future and am back up north in my home town. I own a beautiful home. Not a mansion or anything ostentatious..
But a nice upscale 3 bedroom home. I am independently wealthy and can stay home to homeschool my kids. I have my two boys [bs3 and bs-8 months) and in addition to my real life kids, in my fantasy I have twin baby daughters.

Is it weird that in my wildest fantasy....I want to be single? Just me and my kids?

What's your fantasy life?

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Submitted by stepmama2one on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 1:48pm

It's not weird if your unhappy. If your unhappy then I would just say get out. If you have no kids with DH and you don't feel a bond with his kids then I would say there is no reason for you to be there. My fantasy would be to live in the same little house we live in now. The only thing I want to change is BM be a better mother to her kid and stop bitching at us for things she is doing. I would like to have to the money to be financially independent but right now its just not possible. I stay home with my child and am here when my SD gets out of school because we don't have the money to send the kids to daycare. If I had a fantasy it would be to have the life I have now, just maybe a little bit less complicated.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 1:49pm

This will sound bad I know, but if I held the winning ticket I would turn it over to my parents and not even tell my dh. He's not the best with money and I don't trust bm. If she had any knowledge of that, or his freeloading family for that matter, they would have their hands out asap! I would give it to my mother and father with my blessing so they could live out their retirement in style. They have done so much for me, my sons, and my sister over the years that they deserve it. And I know that I would be generously cared for after they passed with a rocksolid trust that dh couldn't touch.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 1:55pm

I think the only things I would change are these:

I would rewind and have had a baby with DH about 6 or 7 years ago.

Financed would be much different. We don't struggle by any means, but it sure would be nice to be able to do volunteer work rather than HAVE to work, and of course have plenty of money in the bank Wink

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 3:37pm

Same cars Wink I might add a few though... A truck for sure, and maybe a nice convertable for these beautiful CA days Wink

If I were able to have a volunteer job, I would take advantage and travel WITH DH. He loves his job, I don't think he would quit even if we were in a position that he could. During the summer, the kids and I would be able to go with him a lot of times... that would be ideal!

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Submitted by hismineandours on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 5:38pm

Um I would own severl houses. A larger one here where i currently am, one in the mountains, and one on the beach. I would not work. I would spend time with my kids, my dh, work out, pursue hobbies, perhaps start some sort of charity. Read.