Sometimes I notice that some posters seem to "have it all together" so to speak. So, I've been wondering for a while, and this is for everyone: Why are you here on Steptalk? If you had to narrow it down to 1 specific reason, what would that reason be?

Here's mine:

1. I DO NOT want to be your children's mother

2. You nor your children will contribute to the demise of my marriage (actually, I have told her this one)

3. GET A FREAKIN JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so, I opened our medical insurance claims this morning and saw that BM has been having medical bills for skids put in DHs name at the doctor's, then having the bills forwarded to some PO box that may or may not exist. I was always told that the responsible party is the person accompanying the child to the doctor's and that its up to that person to recoup any out of pocket from the NCP. Am I wrong here, and what suggestions do you guys have?

As a steparent.....do you.....

1. Regret making the decision to marry DH, or
ir you are not yet married, are you re0-thinking the possibility?

2. Ever look forward to visitation with Skids, or if you have full custody, ever wish visitation with BM was much longer and more frequent?

3. Find things to do outside the house when skids come around?

4. Give gifts of equal value to skids as well as bios (birthday, Christmas, etc.)?

5. Bite your tongue when it comes to skid-related issues that affect your household just to avoid arguing?