Oh really dh?

I'm a bitch?
I should have stayed with ex boy friend?

Really?

I'm sorry that my response to your question this afternoon at 2:30, "are you sure you're really happy with me?" - this was about an hour after his ensuring I would get a tattoo with his me on it once my $$$ from a house sale came in.

My response: yes honey, I love you to death, I just don't feel like this is anywhere near a 50/50 split of effort towArds our family.

Background:

1- I work full time and am also a realtor. My salary from my job is literally 4 times what he brought home working as a carpenter.

2 - I do most of my work at home but that just means he thinks we can go To lunch and breakfast dates and drink cocktails in the afternoon

3 - he is "supposed" to be the primary caregiver if dd10 months and drive the kids to/ from activities and help with keeping our home in order. He doesn't. He leaves garbage on the counters after opening containers, clothes on the floor and can't seem to do a laps of laundry without prompting.

4- truth is I probably do Anouy 4 hours of work a day and then take care of baby, at home, and take care of household necessities/ shopping, taking kids places, speaking with teachers, dr appts, etc.

Today I had to go to the office from 9-1. He asked for me to come home at 1 so he could finish up the dog run. When I got home, after moving some afternoon appointments, he said that he wasn't in the mood to finish the dog run.
Fine. Wtf? But fine. I'm nice. Whatever.

But then he asks the question and I answer honestly that he DOES NOT do his fair share and all if a sudden it's divorce and he'll leave and I'm a bitch and wtf ever.

I just said not to fuck with me because I guarantee he will end up with the short end of the stick.

He's outside now, working on the dog run. I love this man but he is a huge baby. HUGE! He has a giant ego and hates that I make so much more money than he does, that he's not great at taking care of baby or cleaning the house (btw, we now have a house cleaner coming to assist).

I get he's bit feeling like the man,, but if he wAnts a pissing competition with me, I guarantee, I will win.

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We'll guess what dh? Maybe

We'll guess what dh?

Maybe you should have just stayed married to your ex wife who left you for another woman in 2007 to be with another woman.

And maybe you should have just kept on letting her show up whenever she was fighting with her gf and drink enough to drive the hour to your house to terrorize you and ss to make herself feel better by getting a rise out of you two.

Oh, and maybe, you should have just stayed in your filthy house that you couldn't afford to pay the rent on

And you probably should have stayed on foodstamps, but clearly , not ever taken the time to divorce bm.

Oh. And please. Stay depressed and alone. Keep doing what you were doing for your your son. He was getting bullied, had no friends, failing all classes and afraid if his own shadow --- but oh such a joy to be around since all he ever did was watch tv and play video games while you left him alone in the house while you attempted to support him on your own.

Yes. What a dick is right.

He's having an "I'm a man" moment. But not feeling very manly and taking it all out on me.

I said, "sure, you go back to work, I'll quit and take care if our baby (as I've done with all my babies and he know that), I'll sell my house and you can go to work and support us and we can live in a 2 bedroom apartment. We won't have health insurance, but you can feel like a man. Does that sound good?

He said yes but uh-him. We have 5 kids.

His family calls me fancy.

Bm calls me fancy.

His mom wonders wtf I do that I'm home do much, with 5 kids, dh not working....

Btw: I'm not fancy at all.

Btw: I'm not fancy at all. I'm smart and make money, but seriously not fancy.

At least you are financially

At least you are financially independent. You can take him or leave his ass.

I keep te lling him that if

I keep te
lling him that if he doesn't let me do my job, I'm going to get fired and gave to go on unemployment till I find another.

He doesn't seem to get it.

He'll say I've spoiled him with the attention, lifestyle, love... And now he's a "kept man" and can't function. He's only half joking.

I love my husband and he has

I love my husband and he has a very good heart.

He has not had a good example of a mother ( extremely narcissistic, center if the universe, lives on alimony) or a father ( third wife, only calls when he'd like dh to help him with contracting work). He's got a good core but man oh man, he has zero standard. He sYs he married bm cuz he felt sorry for her.

He is the classic enabler /co- dependent. He wants to feel needed and will give, give, give.

I'm not someone who "needs". I'm someone who makes things work. I've told him that e can brig out the worst ie with his enabling ways, catering to me, following me around, trying to make me happy

But he's also extremely exhausting. I have to tell him:

- please go spend the day with your son
- please go play golf with your friend
- please let me go to walmart by my self
- please go do xyz without me/ with someone else /on you ow

Lately, he even says at about 11 each day "I'm starting to get hungry". As if he can't feed his own damned self. I'll say, "well, make yourself a sandwich. It's not really something we need to discuss on a daily basis"

Driving me ctazy

Oh my.

He has also told me several

He has also told me several times thst if I want to divorce him, he won't fight. He'll just go away.

This man is literally incapacitating-Ly in love with me. He can make now move, choice, decision on his own.

He's told me he'll crumble if we don't work out

... Probably shouldn't have taken that as a compliment while we were dating and understood that it meant I was with a man with no direction / motivation of his own.

He definitely thinks I'm too

He definitely thinks I'm too good for him and doesn't understand what i see in him. He's admitted to giving me (gross) hickies while we were first dating to keep other men away. After everything that transpired with Bm he has a very low self esteem, but I think it started WAY before bm and see it in the way his entire family deals / takes advantage of him.

One step and my new baby

Oh yes. We are both extremely

Oh yes. We are both extremely clear that he is my SIXT child in the house to take care of.

We have back to back dr appts tomorrow. He asked if we can go in together. I said " no, we'll take turns since we have the baby".

Prior to us being together, He hasn't been to the dentist since high school (he's 43). At his physical last year (first in probably same time) he insisted I come In To speak wth the doctor.

It a not a joke that he is child number six

Yup, husband is definitely

Yup, husband is definitely one of the kids.

Totly and extremely upset and

Totly and extremely upset and disgusted me. He's say it was just best of the moment passion.

He seriously confessed recently that it was his way of making sure I wasn't sleeping with other men. Wtf!

I was dating other men very casually when we met and he was so freaked out he thought he had to mark me

Step Off, you do wayyyyyyyy

Step Off, you do wayyyyyyyy too much...I would have stopped a long time ago....and he wants to say some stupid shit like you should have stayed with your ex BF?.....well, you are a pretty lady and I'm sure your ex would LOVE to have you back.....lol

Thanks glitter. I like to

Thanks glitter. I like to think I'm a foxy catch too

But truth us that I have four kids of my own that I'd like cared for at a certain level. My preference is that I'm the at home mommy. Second was that dh would be home, but at this point I'm ready to send dh back to work and have his salty cover my sister watching the kids.

but you guys have a little

but you guys have a little one (cutie by the way) and he SHOULD be helping with her!

Yesterday He had the nerve to

Yesterday He had the nerve to say "I never signed up to be a babysitter".

... Oh, you think I had some choice words to share with him regarding "babysitting your child".

And thanks!!! Baby V is definitely a cutie. She has her dad's stubbornness but very sweet and cute - extremely different than my other three and trying to figure out whether it's due to dh's genes or dh's last 6 months as primary care giver.

he said

he said what???????????????????????? :jawdrop: ....how does one babysit their own child?.....*fist to nuts*

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