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MSD read my message I sent her and she responded.....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Sun, 04/27/2014 - 9:59am

If you recall the issue with MSD and me not letting her and GB stay at the house. (A few blogs back)

I ended up sending her a message to "clear the air" and try to possibly get past some of the drama. I know that DH is going to be stepping up to help MSD and GB out more, so I wanted to try to resolve some of the drama so that I can support him.

Well her response was:

"I'm sorry" but I'm not gonna read this its too long.
(((w/e)))

I think the w/e means whatever.

Skids are just guests in our home DH.....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 04/18/2014 - 7:17am

DH and I had a talk about boundaries yesterday. I explained to him that the skids are just guests when they are here. If you think of them that way, you can enforce boundaries.

Just like you wouldnt expect your mom to walk in and start rearranging furniture or pictures or go through your drawers or steal your underwear, you shouldnt think its okay for your kids to do that just because they are your kids.

Blog Hog---I think everyone is going to be *okay* for now

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 9:17am

Sorry to be such a blog hog lately. And thank you everyone for your support and advice and encouragement over the past few days. It has 100%+ helped me through this situation.

DH and I are *fine*. He came home after work. We talked a little. He says he understands why I wouldnt let her stay. He was mad at me about it but he understands. I am okay with that. I would be mad too if it was the other way around.

Would this bother you?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/16/2014 - 7:19am

So DH came home last night. I was already alseep. He gets up this morning and gets in the shower right away. Well I am nosey and curious as to if there are any texts between him and MSD- looking for information. While I dont like going this route THIS seems to be the only way I can get information regarding ANYTHING. DH's lack of communication skills and sharing information is also why I feel so angry/resentful about the skid situation. He only tells me what he wants to tell me, never clues me in to the full picture, but expects me to go out of my way to be help the skids.

Update on DH wanting MSD and GB to move in

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 4:39pm

I haven't really talked to him since he left last night.

I checked his checking account today to see if he got a hotel or not. Wasn't sure if he was telling the truth about really going to a vacant... no hotel...BUT there is a charge for $140 for one of the apartment complexes he works at. It's one that is in same town as where MSD was living.

So of course I start thinking a ton of things. Not sure if it was a deposit? If it was for her? Did he sign a lease for her? If so I will be super mad. Or is this for him? I dont know.......

Is it too much to think.....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 1:38pm

As long as we have the skids that we have. As long as the skids are who they are...then we will always have to deal with them and their b.s. It just never goes away.

Even though it isn't our fault or our b.s. to deal with, its US that have to learn to cope and deal and adjust if we want to stay married.

So mad I am shaking- DH trying to let OSD and GB stay at our house

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/14/2014 - 7:16pm

I was having a good night with DH. We had a good weekend. He came off of his man period finally. I am having a health issue but feeling like DH was supportive about it, making me feel better. Dealing with 2 sick animals that are at the vets.... but we are still having a good night.

We were video recording our cockatoo bird dancing on DH's phone and a call from a number he doesn't recognize comes in 3 times and he just ignores it. Finally a text comes through "Hey dad it's MSD. Call me back its an emergency"

Anyone else think this way?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 04/11/2014 - 7:52am

Sometimes I daydream what it would be like to be single. No skids to have to deal with. No issues with DH because of the skids. No issues with DH and my own bio.

Sad thing I have only been married for 6 months Sad

I love my husband. We have a good life. We get along well. He is good to my BS. I dont really have to deal with the skids or BM.

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