lately
Lately my youngest SS has been acting so strange. It was always been the older one that never really "warmed" to me whereas the youngest loved me.
Now the oldest doesn't exactly "love me forever" but he has warmed up to me more. And the youngest barely will speak to me. He rolls his eyes when I talk to him. He has been saying things like "I don't want SM around" and telling his dad "secrets" (which are typically things about me. Doesn't want me around, etc). He is only 5!
I'm sure he's only doing this because of BM.....or at least I HOPE that's all it is. The oldest SS did say that BM has been saying "a lot of bad, lies about me." And that he "knows the REAL story and doesn't believe BM"
Anyone else ever experienced this?
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My 9yo SS has also pushed me
My 9yo SS has also pushed me away, yet I have developed a better relationship with my 12yo SS. Not sure what is causing it on my end... but it is EXTREMELY frustrating. I don't know of any "secrets" being told to my husband... yet he has seemed depressed lately. I don't have any advice, but I can relate.
My skids have been with their
My skids have been with their BM since the 26th. We get them back Monday. I dread it. Not because I don't love them, but because she's had so much time to fill their heads with shit, I'm worried about how they will act with me and their dad. I have a good relationship with all of them, but she's the mother...
It takes us a couple of days
It takes us a couple of days to get the boys back on track after they come back from their mother's. I really hope things will get back to normal for us ALL when school starts back. Maybe that is why everyone's kids are acting different. Maybe its the holidays and they are wishing that mommy and daddy were back together like the old days. Who knows.
When DH and I got together,
When DH and I got together, SS7 was a go with the flow kind of kid, and SS9 was the stand-offish one. Went through our period of me being the new SM and trying too hard. BM played all the card that you read about BM playing with their kids. BM newest BF has done something to really piss her family off, so know they are not holding their comments (keeping to most damaging from the kids, thank goodness), from the now SS11 and SS12 1/2. Ss 12 1/2 has now started warning me that Mom was on SS11 FB so any comments about you are not from him. SS 12 1/2 and I are now much closer and ss11 is the stand offish one. I think it comes with age and even though I keep telling my DH they willl figure her out in time, I am so glad to see that SS 12 1/2 is starting to realize and question her on her actions and knowing when she is lying to him. Hope all gets better in time. I am still hoping ss11 will see in good time.
The older ones are growing
The older ones are growing wiser to bms games and lies and bullshit. The little ones are sucked into the lies and get more attention from bm when they buy into what she says about stepmom, especially when the older ones are pulling away from bm. It happened here too. Eventually all these little boys will turn on their bm and resent their childhoods spent listening to her cry and lie.