The Ostrich has reverted back to type...
Four months ago he raised his head out of the sand enough to tell me he wanted to leave me- but he didn't leave, and I got so sick of hearing him say he was leaving that I left. Now he really wants the sale of the house to go through but admits he's done nothing about it... and left it to me to sort out the mess. When will I ever be rid of this total idiot person who is now blaming everyone involved except himself??
I have been forced to get back in touch with him to try and sort the situation out- but it is seriously pissing me off. Now he is using the re-opened lines of communication to have a go at me... just feeling very frustrated. Any tips on how I can force him out without ever needing to communicate with him again- ever???
- fairyo's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Unfortunately, it looks like
Unfortunately, it looks like you are going to have to soldier through if you want to get the house sold. THEN, you can be done with him. Just try to do as much as you can, without having to deal with him.
Do you guys have a realtor or anything yet?
It sucks that he is the one who basically forced you out of the house but he is not doing what he needs to do to get it sold. I would be pissed, too. I know he didn't literally force you out but you know what I mean, he forced your hand.
What do you mean, "to have a go at me"? What is he doing?
He created this mess and, now, wants you to deal with the hard stuff. Sounds like a lot of men we read about!
I'm sorry, fairyo.
I'm finding soldiering pretty
I'm finding soldiering pretty hard- I sorted out my work, worked my socks off the past few months, found myself a place to rent and a house to buy and what has he done? Sat on his fat arse and waited for everyone else to do stuff, as always. This waiting around for him to get going is the hardest bit.
I haven't heard from him for weeks and sent a message to get some clarity and he's used it as an excuse to blame me for causing all this. Sheesh- I reminded him that he was the one who wanted to move onto a new life and he has now gone quiet, thank the Lord. On Monday I will write to the solicitor and explain that I want a deadline. I know he is buying a property of his own but it is a complicated sale which is typical of him messing things up.
Here in Fairyland we have a system which means even though you buy/sell a house it isn't completed until the very last minute and any party can back out up until that time. It is a crazy system and needs changing as the only people who benefit are the estate agents and the solicitors.
Maybe I should just get angry at hem and ignore him...
That must be awful.
That must be awful.
I'd communicate via email. You can deal with him when you want, you don't have to hear his voice, you don't have to respond until you're ready.
Judging by the sound of him though, he probably wouldn't get off his ass to respond to email.
You're almost there. The sooner you get it done, the sooner you'll be rid of him. We're all pulling for you!
Thank-you, e-mail and text
Thank-you, e-mail and text are the only way we've communicated. The last time I saw him he went upstairs and hid from me! He won't respond to my e-mails now because he knows I'm right about him being the one who wanted to end it. I am almost there- maybe only a couple of weeks away.
Only talk about the house,
Only talk about the house, become a broken record, treat him like a toddler. I agree with suing him for your half of the house. This is the only connection he has to you now and is unwilling to let go. You might have to force him.
What's left to do? Is the house showable or has he messed it up? I thought you had a realtor all lined up and were showing it already.
Yes the house has been sold
Yes the house has been sold but if the buyer backs out it will have to be re-marketed. Of course, he hasn't looked after the property since I left, he never cared about it as much as I did. The buyer wants us to pay the insurance for any repairs that need to be done- I don't have a problem with that but he seems to- he's just dragging his feet and it's just typical of him. I am going to buy a bottle of bubbly and put it in the fridge to open when its all over. It worked for me before...
I like your bubbly plan!
I love planning in advance to celebrate! It psychs me up to get through the hard parts when I have a shiny reward to enjoy.
Doesn't sound like any fun
Doesn't sound like any fun for you.
Can you explain the the real estate agent you want to go through her/him to communicate to ostrich about the house? Only use email to communicate with him so you have record of things. Tell him how he will benefit monetarily of selling the house and let him know how much it will cost him if the house doesn't sell.
best of luck to you.
I don't really have any
I don't really have any advice, except stay strong, grit your teeth and tell yourself it will all be over, if not soon, at some point, and then you can put this loser firmly behind you. If he is using the need for email contact to get at you, just completely ignore any digs and don't get drawn in, keep it very business like. Probably easier said than done.
Dangit, fairyo, I am sadly
Dangit, fairyo, I am sadly not surprised. I agree with those who said to limit contact with Butthead, er, Ostrich, to email. And only respond to issues regarding the house/sale. I know it's tempting to reply to his BS, but you are BETTER than him. Get that bubbly, hold your head high, and push forward. In the long run, this annoying time of your life will be relatively short. {{hugs}}
Oh I love this idea! I might
Oh I love this idea! I might suggest to him that if he isn't out in two weeks I will move back in on my birthday and host a massive party!! The good news is I've heard nothing from him since reminding him the whole idea was his in the first place. Meanwhile, I will not respond if he does e-mail me again. I've had enough. No one can take away what is rightly mine.