I applaud your BF for setting the boundary with his daughter. If you are uncomfortable with the prospects of her having a panic attack.. you should not be obligated to be her caregiver.
So good to hear that your BF had your back on that babysitting biz. Phew!
I agree with ESMOD about those panic attacks. Especially if you are uncomfortable or incapable of assisting her during a panic attack.
Example: I have severe panic attacks. My sister had never seen me have one and totally FREAKED OUT. She was crying and yelling at me, "DON'T DIE ON ME!!!" This made my panic attack WORSE. DH knows when I have a panic attack to be calm and that he can be quietly reassuring (I'm here, baby or It will be okay, baby) and gently stroke my back.
Is she therapy? Panic attacks are very treatable. She needs to learn how to manage them herself. That would be one thing I'd want to see before I moved in.
I wish I had waited to marry my dh until his three d were over 18. They were 18, 16, and 12. The older two lived with him fulltime. Yes, my hormones were thru the roof. Why didn't. I listen to reason or take it more slowly? Looooovvvvveee.
she will be sitting home after HS and be doing nothing. If BM throws her out, that will become your major problem. Not only does SD has no plans in life. But her parents have no exit plan either. She may be living with her father after HS
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Are you sure that she is ever
Are you sure that she is ever going to be able to live independently?
Nope I’m not. I think I’ve
Nope I’m not. I think I’ve had my head in the sand about it. Stupid love hormones clouding my judgement.
I once said my dating deal breakers would be smoking, religion, and children. Ugh. At least he doesn’t smoke.
I applaud your BF for setting
I applaud your BF for setting the boundary with his daughter. If you are uncomfortable with the prospects of her having a panic attack.. you should not be obligated to be her caregiver.
It’s more the tantrums that
It’s more the tantrums that get me. I have anxiety too, so I understand panic attacks. But screaming and throwing things? NOPE.
So good to hear that your BF
So good to hear that your BF had your back on that babysitting biz. Phew!
I agree with ESMOD about those panic attacks. Especially if you are uncomfortable or incapable of assisting her during a panic attack.
Example: I have severe panic attacks. My sister had never seen me have one and totally FREAKED OUT. She was crying and yelling at me, "DON'T DIE ON ME!!!" This made my panic attack WORSE. DH knows when I have a panic attack to be calm and that he can be quietly reassuring (I'm here, baby or It will be okay, baby) and gently stroke my back.
Aww, so sorry that you have
Aww, so sorry that you have to live with anxiety as well. It’s tough.
Thank you. At least I have
Thank you. At least I have learned what to do when having one or when I feel one building.
Is she therapy? Panic attacks
Is she therapy? Panic attacks are very treatable. She needs to learn how to manage them herself. That would be one thing I'd want to see before I moved in.
Learn from my mistake
I wish I had waited to marry my dh until his three d were over 18. They were 18, 16, and 12. The older two lived with him fulltime. Yes, my hormones were thru the roof. Why didn't. I listen to reason or take it more slowly? Looooovvvvveee.
Plz slow it down!*yes3*
This kid is never going away for college.
she will be sitting home after HS and be doing nothing. If BM throws her out, that will become your major problem. Not only does SD has no plans in life. But her parents have no exit plan either. She may be living with her father after HS