Coinciding with the forum post on pet names for children

I read the forum post from today discussing a father's pet names for his teenage children and it made me think of someone from my hometown. So on facebook I am friends with this man who's 33 from my hometown and he posts almost a picture a day of his daughter, which is totally fine. It is the captions that he posts for the photos that to me are weird and probably will make him single forever, I will post those below. Now I don't know know him, so I have no idea what his parenting is like, just that he got married, they had a child, they divorced (when?) I have no idea, he actually married my ex's older sister. Anyways, the child just turned 5, according to a post I saw yesterday.

"My all time #1"

"My diamond"

"My heart"

"My soul"

"My lifetime #1"

"My best friend"

"My love"

"My baby"

"I know a girl. She put the color back in my world."

"Lil baby wanted a bike. So lil baby got a bike, that's how it works. Daddy's girl all the way."

That is just the most recent ones. Maybe a year ago I saw he had a girlfriend from our home town, but it was very short lived and I am not surprised. Seems like he's a huge disney dad and way too obsessed with his daughter to let anyone be a partner. I also think some men forget that maybe in an intact family, it wouldn't be such an issue, but when you're not anymore, calling your child the same names or more endearing/romantic terms than your partner who is not the child's BM, doesn't feel good and is not appropriate.

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Ew.

Setting both up for failure

Even in an 'intact' family this is just obsessive. What is he trying to prove? And what kind of world is he creating for his daughter?

He should not involve himself with another adult partner EVER because it will destroy his daughters world. She is being brought up that she is his Sun and his world revolves around her. Introduce another woman into the picture and his daughter will face a disaster.

My daughters ex always had Dad/kids name day with my grandson, his only child. This day was sacrosanct. Nothing changed ever to accomodate his time with his son. Well the 'greener grass' turned up with her 2 kids in tow and she got pregnant with their shared baby. Suddenly my grandson at 5 yrs old went from Daddy's full attention 24/7 to sharing him with a baby and 2 kids he never met before and having to refer to these 2 unkown kids as 'my brother and sister'. It messes with their heads more than anything.

This Disney Dad should stick to booty calls and random hookups. No expectations of lasting relationships. Just 'adult time' and never his 2 worlds will meet.

I 100% agree

it will be a hard hard world when his daughter grows up and realizes the world does not revolve around her! Plus her future relationships will be damaged too if it keeps down this road!

He is definitely compensating

He is definitely compensating for something. Either that or trying to get attention "Look at me, i'm such a great dad!" He probably gets enough "aww"s and compliments over it that he continues. I used to unwittingly give these types of guys/posts smiles or likes, too. But after what i've seen, it now seems cheesy at best and icky/dysfunctional at worst. It's a red flag to me now, like a type of virtue signaling for dysfunctional guilty divorced dads.

Yep!

He definitely gets lots of likes and comments about how he is the best dad and such a great dad, etc. so maybe that is it, I really don't know, but it is waaaay too much

He's feeding on the attention

He's feeding on the attention.

IT'S GROSS! The reason it's

IT'S GROSS! The reason it's so skeevy to me is because a parent is basically having a romantic relationship with their child. Telling a child they are the number one most important person in their life is wrong. They are not teaching the child about relationships and how their are differences in them. He's going to have a mini wife and not understand why he can't ever get laid again.

This is gross. You can love

This is gross. You can love your children but this is a mini-wife in the making

Eh, he thinks this makes him

Eh, he thinks this makes him look like a Father of The Year, but it just makes him look creepy. Posting daily pictures of your kids is weird, too. Seriously, no one cares that much about your dang kids.

The whole posting things

The whole posting things about your kids on facebook is weird to me. These especially. These are not updates that grandparents, friends or distant relatives might be interested in these are just him showing off about how great a Dad he is. The 5 year old girl is not on facebook everyday checking if Dad posted an update.

It's like when people post happy birthday messages to their young kids online. Don't they see them in person to say these things or at least have a phone call with them? Or are they just trying to get others to wish their kids happy birthday and tell them what a great kid they have and how lucky they are to have an amazing parent?

#2. I want to be pampered by my guy.

Icky!

Cue involuntary lip curl and dry heaves.