TT can sue you for any and everything. That doesn't mean she'll win. I don't see any judge, one month before alimony ends, telling your DH to fix her car. Plus, unless that stipulation about car work is written in the divorce decree, she doesn't have a leg to stand on.

Now, regarding her claim to CS...maybe. Though she *just* got a modification, so I doubt a judge would hear from her a second time so soon. BUT, if she wants to play that game, I'd let her know that she can do as she sees necessary, but you'll have to share the texts from her about needing CS for a vacation that didn't include Munchkin, and that you'd also be asking for her income to be imputed to what she can earn, or at least to what her big fat lawsuits are making her *before* lawyer fees since that is her income.

Or, just ignore her. She doesn't have much of a leg to stand on. She's just trying to scare you. If she does go to court, ask her to pay attorney fees. 

I would totally and completely ignore her. You said DH is scared of the court threats....and she knows that which is why she does it....and he should never ever go near her car....ever.

Threats from BM to DH in my house 100% stopped when he started ignoring her.

OMG, that is HILARIOUS - increased child support to pay for her car maintenance! BWAAAHHAAAAHAAA!

Why is he so scared of court? They don't just increase payments because the woman wants it.  Personally, I think he needs to call her bluff once and for all. Let her take him to court and take away her power.  

Most places won't let women get modifications every time they ask for one, without a significant change. 

Lol,

She has spooled out far more than enough rope that you can use to hang her in court.

Enjoy her porcine machinations and have fun smacking about the head and shoulders in court with the volumes of material she keeps feeding to you and DH.

Car repairs in a Custody/Visitation/Support order?  Really?    Spousal support and CS are the extent of support unless otherwise ordered.  It is the CP’s job to support themselves and their kids beyond that.

Let her rot.

This is typical behavior.  My DH's EX also would threaten court every time she wanted to get something from him.  She actually threatened to take him back to court for "reserved spousal support" if he didn't pay her health insurance premiums a few years ago... literally more than 10 years after we had been married and probably 15 years since their divorce was final.  

In our state you can reserve the right to ask for spousal support.. but there are limits to the amount of time.. and generally they will only provide it for up to 50% of the length of the marriage and with some year limits... she was way outside that.. PLUS had been living with a boyfriend for almost 10 years at this point which was a specific grounds for STOPPING support pmts..

She was just trying to blackmail him into paying her premiums.

She apparently got her bf to give her a bunch of money when they split up so she wouldn't run his name down.. 

She is not a nice person.

I guess I might have some concerns if the amount of time that your state allows for spousal support is longer than what she was awarded.. perhaps the judge might extend in that case.

But.. with her other issues.. it seems that she is just trying to game everything.  I know it sucks.. but he may want to run this by his lawyer...

Of course.. in the end.. if a minor fix to this car is less of a problem for him than lawyer fees.. sometimes we have to pick which devil to dance with.

He really just needs to face his fear and call her bluff, and by that, I mean IGNORE, not even engage with her about it, anymore.

At this point, she has a lot more to lose by going to court. Extortion charges, for one!

He casually mentioned that "working on the exes car is detrimental to his marriage, and he hopes that she can understand..."

And why is he still bringing you and your marriage into it, begging her to understand?

Just to answer a few questions

Yes- she can ask for special circumstances to have spousal support continued due to her injury. HOWEVER- going to Hawaii kind of throws that argument out the window. She would have to prove she is financially destitute, people that can go on trips like that are not.

The judge won't award her more CS for the car. It is a calculator. It is what it is. 

As for the car repairs, I don't see how a judge would ever force someone to work on someone else's car. I would think it would put him in a liability situation that he can just say he is no longer comfortable with due to her being so HC. 

The decree should state whether alimony is modifiable or non-modifiable.  If it is the latter, unless she was defrauded its likely a closed issue. 

Since the order is a specified and fixed duration what you'll want to look for is a statement declaring non-modifiable or something along the lines of the court reserving jurisdiction.  If there's something like jurisdiction is reserved to the court it's a pretty good sign they will take up a request to modify. 

If the order is vague and doesn't explicitly state terms are not modifiable, the court could still extend it even without the jurisdiction statement.  

If it turns out it is modifiable that means it goes both ways, either party can request a modification but you have to have (legit) grounds.

I don't think bitchy or butthurt qualify.

Let's roll with having a legitimate reason.  If it was due to her inability to work then that should've come up oh way back when her work situation changed.  If she's not making the move to or the case for disability then she's probably not going to have much success saying it's because of the inability to work that she discovered 18 mos back.

Without an order or declaration (of the medical variety) stating she cannot work, her decision to remain unemployed isn't going to go in her favor, either.

As for the car repairs - unless there is specific verbiage in the decree to deviate from child support and alimony calculators for free labor car repairs, she will have a tough time arguing that was a consideration and that modifications need to happen because he is no longer willing to repair her car for the cost of parts, regardless of why that changed for him. 

Your DH may be triggered by her nonsense but he needs to be realistic about her threats.  From the sounds of it she doesn't have grounds.  If she stumbles upon a successful rationale to petition, she doesn't sound like she will be able to make much of a case.

From what you've shared here there is nothing in their decree that legally makes him beholden to her for the rest of their natural lives.  No matter how much she may shriek that there is. 

Your DH needs to read through his decree to understand his actual obligations and educate himself on the laws re: alimony in your state.  He doesn't need to do anything else unless/until she petitions the court.  No sense in borrowing trouble.  If he educated himself on his situation, though, her rantings would have much less power over him.

Clove, have you been keeping a record of the days you and DH have Munchkin? I know there have been several instances where you've had her in excess of the CO.

It's a simple yet useful bit of data to have for court. If TT asks for more $$, your SO can counter with the fact that he's already providing additional support since had his daughter ____ extra days in the past six months, year, or whatever. Judges don't like lying drama queens.

Maybe if BM files for more support, DH should file for full custody. You have a lot of evidence that TT is an unstable parent.  Two can play the court filing game. 

My goodness this woman is a real piece of work! So stressfull for you all. 

Isn't that court case settled---her injury case?

Its time your dh only use our family wizard. STOP with the messages back and forth. It would stop this crazy stuff.

Well maybe again is wont but it IS worth a try. jmo

Hey were is Hatchet man?

Edit to add...I know your worried Clove,,,(((HUGS)))))

DEADBEAT BM!!  sucks         but hey! its been over 10 years since the last "cs" check was paid and DH hasnt spoken to her since.  and I get the good husband.    there is light at the end of the tunnel