The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Single Mom
I'm a mature BM & SM of 5. Every time we StepTalkers advise a poster to leave, I get an anxious feeling due to my own experiences in the '70s. I wonder if conditions have improved since then.
Security: My ex stalked, threatened & harassed me. He stole my car. He kidnapped my 6yo BS from school. The police didn't seem to focus on domestic violence then. Anticipating trouble, I called them before going back to retrieve possessions. They said, " We don't like to get involved". The school wasn't yet vigilant about who had permission to pick up children. Do the police & schools do better now?
Housing: After 9 months with my family, I rented the second floor of a residence. It had its own private, outside entrance. I was evicted after 2 months when the homeowner saw their son-in-law come to my door repeatedly. He wanted to "fix things" but I had neither requested nor encouraged him & never let him in. While apartment hunting again, I was told on different occasions, " We dont want any divorcees" & "We dont want any children". Is it easier to get housing now?
Childcare: I had a good, professional nursery school when I lived at home but once I moved out, I couldnt afford it. I made do with a succession of babysitters. Is affordable childcare more available now?
Money: Wage disparity was worse then than now with women routinely paid less than men for the same work. Although I was awarded child support, my ex worked cash jobs, when he worked, so I rarely received child support. Is child support enforcement better now?
As difficult as it was, I'd still leave me ex. I was lucky: I had my youth, health, brains, looks and family. If a poster wants to leave, I hope they are lucky, too.
Tell me how it is nowadays, StepTalkers. Lay it on me.