Let's reward her for being an a$$hole?
SD12 does this thing where she acts like she likes to see us and says that she will be back soon and that we are going to get back on a every other weekend schedule. I think she says this stuff just to get my DHS hopes up because after we see her she usually doesn't talk to us in any form for about two months until the next holiday or until she wants something.
SD12 didn't answer DHs call on Christmas, she just texted "thank you for the presents" at 8 pm. On New years she did answer his call and they talked about 40 seconds about not much at all. My husband said she was being an a$$hole! Wow! She was but I was very surprised that he would actually say that.
So what does he do about SD's behavior? He sent her a gift from Amazon without saying anything to try to get her to initiate a conversation with him. She didn't reach out and thank him. He was annoyed with that and called her an a$$hole again. OK maybe he should learn his lesson that trying to bribe her to talk to him is not going to work. But instead of giving up he's just going to escalate.
He has started brainstorming about a vacation that we all need to go on once travel restrictions are let up. Yep that sounds about right let's reward SD for being an asshole by trying to bribe her with something bigger.
I would rather not go on a vacation at all than to spend one with SD.
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He is trying to buy SD's
He is trying to buy SD's attention. Ugh.
Maybe you should suggest that he and SD need that vacation to "bond". You should do your own thing while they rebuild their relationship. *biggrin*
my husband would have an
my husband would have an absolutely miserable vacation if it was just him and sd12 there is no way he would ever do that. we have a toddler and one on the way and he seems to think that SD will be helping us with the babies. yeah freaking right I know it's going to happen St is going to try to get DH to do some expensive activities with just her and leave me with the two little ones at the hotel. There is no way I'm going on a vacation unless I actually can relax!
Oh, I think he and SD need a
Oh, I think he and SD need a weekend together! *diablo*
She is a twit and so is he
She is a twit and so is he for pandering to her. I never went on a holiday anywhere with my SDs and never would - I would rather sojourn in hell for a week. The most I ever did was a weekend at my MIL's (from whom I am now estranged) with DH and the SDs - never to be repeated.
How sad he can't see he's
How sad he can't see he's being manipulated by a 12 year old. Maybe rather than throwing all that money away on a vacation he should save it up and use it for some therapy.
Yep same story here. SO has
Yep same story here. SO has been on a mission to buy OSDs love and affection for the last year Each time getting bigger and bigger with his indulgences.
He gets mad at me because I am the one who used to provide extravagant gifts and activities and I absolutely refuse to do anything for her anymore. He believes if I kiss OSDs butt too she will finally love him again. I wised up quickly that I was just being used. The day she burned her bridge with me was after I paid $200 to take her and a friend skiing and on top of being absolutely rude and disrespectful. She said told me I do nothing for her. I told her good, now I'm gonna make her eat her words.
I have 2 vacations planned this year, neither include SKs. I might let SO go, not sure yet.
Time to disengage from all of it
Just keep DH from throwing away money at SD. At 12 she is not going to change. Why should she, she does nothing and still gets gifts.
I would never go on vacation with her. Just flush that money down the toilet. Your DH wants " The Happy Family"::SD is not going to give him that.
Just make sure that none of yoir money goes to SD. In anyway. As DH gives SD money or gifts then he's short of money. Don't make it up