What are your thoughts?
My husband and I dropped my step kids off today at their grandmothers house. We got to her house and he leaned back for them to kiss him and they said bye and love you. He pointed at me for them to say it but I waved at them and said bye and I loved them. I froze anxiously because I felt like I had to do what their dad did. I’ve been in their life for 3 years. When they hug me, I put my arms around them back. Last night my step daughter leaned on me and said goodnight. I put my arms around her and said goodnight and I love her. Is it bad of me to let them initiate affection first? I get so anxious doing it first even though they always show me affection. I am going to therapy soon. But I just want to know if this makes me a bad step mom?