Step son 18 has no interest in getting a job or anything around the house
Hi there i wasnt sure which category to put this into. My step son is 18 legal adult age in nebraska is 19. He has lived with me for two years. My husband enables him buying him pop, candy, gulitars whatever he wants. Hes extremly entitked with no consequences. I am at a breaking point, my husband will ask him to take out the trash and he will tell him later. He was suppose to clean his room before leaving this weekend. He didn't. I'm mad it's a mess, when I try to talk to my husband about disciplining his son. My husband yells at me and says it's not a big deal. The boy has been very goid about r going to school and misses rarely. He has never talked rude to me but he does his dad. It's more of a friendship between them. I am wondering what to do I'm about ten months out from him being 19 and then I can just evict him. I own the house here. Should I just stay quiet and evict him. He has expressed he doesn't want to be disciplined by anyone other than his bio mom and bio dad. He has made no attempts to get a job and only goes to school three hours a day. The rest of the time he wants to play video games and guitar and can't be bothered to clean. Thank you in advance for any advice here. I would really appreciate it.
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He's right about one thing
He's right that only dad and BM should be disciplining him. Not that dad is doing it....
But your question is what will happen when he's 19. I'd take a position of concern. Ask DH what the plan is. Because you're concerned about SS, right? Then go from there. If he says college, great, ask about how it's being funded. If it's something else, then you'll know more. "He will probably get a job", ''I don't know", " Whatever he decides," etc. in any event, the topic is open and later you can draw whatever boundaries are sensible.
You have a year to
Discuss with DH, about his DS future. Don't wait until SS 19 Birthday to drop the move out bombshell on DH. and or SS. SS should be told now. To plan on his moving out after he turns 19. You must give him time to get a job, save up tor his deposit, security, first month rent ect. To move out right.
Thus is the time to start buying SS. dishes, pot and pans, towels stuff that Will go on sale after Christmas and in January, Just remember DH may not be happy about this
You need to have a calm and
You need to have a calm and rational discussion about his son and what he sees for his future. You can set your case out that you don't intend to want to house an unemployed adult indefinitely.. so you need for them to provide you a plan/road map for what it loooks like for him to actually become an adult