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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 8:25am

The Skids went back home last night. After a heated discussion with DH about his kids being his responsibility he took a few days off of work to stay home and watch his 3 demons while I took SS7 and BD3 out. I felt relief and happiness after DH came home from the airport without the Skids and my home is mines again. But... Fast forward to 10oclock at night.
DH is too tired to get intimate. BD3 awoke from a nightmare and he was too tired to do his normal routine to calm her down so I took care of it. His phone rings at 3am. Its BM. DH jumps up and answers it and I hear him telling her to calm down everything will be alright. This really bothers me because you were too tired to tend to your wife and daughter but wide awake at 3am when BM calls? He says he just heard the phone ring and it woke him up and he didn't know who was calling until he answered and he didn't want to be rude and hang up in her face when she is obviously hysterical.

Should I be upset? Because I admit it I am upset and it did bother me. I tend to overreact a lot.

This Saturday is DHs birthday so I don't want to be to much of a drama queen this week.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 8:29am

I'm with you, I would be annoyed... BUT with that said, I do agree with your DH that a 3 am phone call can jar you out of your sleep and wake you up stat for sure. I got a 3 a.m. call from my mother when my step dad passed away and I can tell you, after that? If I am sleeping and the phone rings? It's instant panic... and it's been 6 years!

What I want to know though is WHAT was BM hysterical about? Was she out of toilet paper or was there some real emergency??

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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 9:38am

Probably nothing important. She is really annoying she is always calling with some story to gain symapthy. She is always crying.

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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 9:51am

Ok Echo your right. Now I just feel stupid for going off on him. Thanks for telling my like it is.

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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 9:55am

Hey Echo. when BD3 wakes up scared DH always pretends to kill the monsters and tickels her and sits beside her she ends up falling back asleep in 10 minutes . When I try she just yells" I want daddy to kill the monsters". What do you suggest we do?

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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 10:40am

Ok. Mabey I'm not as great a parent as I thought I was. Thanks for the harsh but needed advice.

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Submitted by oldone on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 10:00am

The stuff he did or did not do with you is not relevant. Even if you'd had mind blowing sex and he had gotten up to comfort BD3 - he still has NO EXCUSE for having a conversation with BM at 3 am just because she is upset.

Obviously it was not an emergency about a skid as he didn't do anything but talk to her.

I don't blame him at all for answering the phone - it's the conversation that he had with her in the middle of the night that would be utterly unacceptable to me.

He is no longer her DH. He is not there to provide emotional comfort to her. As long as the skids are safe she can go suck an egg and cry in someone else's beer.

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Submitted by stepmomto2many on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 10:14am

Shaking. I see your point and I'm glad you understand my fustrations. I'm sure after blowing up on him he will (hopefully) stop acting like I should take care of his respomsiblites and understand that he does not need to be BMs emotional cane anylonger.