Wow. This girl sounds like something else. Glad the therapist confirmed its exhausting to listen to her. Lol.

Have fun with this kid...My SD17 was this way and still is...Thankfully, she is out of my house. The "Me, Me, Me's" were exhausting. We ignored her all the time and led to her needing someones undivided attention, which she gets at her moms. When she left, it was like a weight came off the household. My sons are much happier.

You know, my SK's are the same way. They are sooooo into themselves and also have the habit of assigning a dollar amount to everything they have/others have.

They make a point of flashing their birthday/holiday money around us (they get TONS from their grandparents... like more than I make in 2 weeks). They have to repeat - over and over and over again - how much their newest pair of Jordans cost. With matching Jordon socks (insert $ amt here). How much their Beats cost. Making sure to try to convince my DH that the Beats my DS13 SAVED HIS OWN MONEY TO BUY were cheap knock-offs. Anything to pump themselves up and tear down anyone else's self-esteem is what they'll do.

Their mom is the same way, and I always wrote it off as poor self-esteem. But the more I have to listen to it, I've realized they don't have poor self-esteem, just poor social skills and the need to make themselves bigger than what they really are, usually at the expense of others. They too talk about how PERFECT they are in every way.

I just feel kind of sorry for them because this behavior has been encouraged and fostered over the years (they were like this even before they were despicable teens). I just wonder how many pegs they will be knocked down when they reach adulthood.

Another interesting thing here is her obsession with price tags. Are you planning on tightening the purse strings and/ or enlisting her to help to pay for these?

I remember once when I said something to my DH regarding him having low self-esteem and he vehemently denied it, stating that he had GREAT self esteem.

Well, years later, he has finally realized that he does have low self esteem....except when it comes to his work. He is highly skilled in his line of work and businesses are vying to get him to work for them. When he said he had great self esteem, he was thinking solely of work.

Could be that she thinks she looks great (and that is what she focuses on) but thinks she lacks in another area. Brains? Personality? Who knows.

Glad you talked with the therapist about this! You'll have to keep us updated on his opinion/advice/suggestions. My skid has also become very self-involved (at 7 lol), but I think it mostly has to do with insecurities about me being pregnant.

Sd10 is like this. Last school year there was a school writing assignment where each child had to write a book. SD wrote her entire book about how great and pretty and smart she was and how she was so popular. I was quite shocked when I read it when it came home. I showed it to dh. He read it and thought it was good. I gave him a funny look and asked him if he found anything g weird about it. He said no why. I asked if he found it a bit odd that when give the assignment to write a story on any topic of her choosing, she writes about herself. He got this sick look on his face and goes, you mean the assignment wasn't to write about themselves?. Nope, and I handed him the assignment sheet and the instructions were to write a fiction piece and listed a bunch of criteria (intro, 2 plot points, conclusion etc). And this is what she came up with.

It was quite telling.

Teens are certainly narcisstic to a degree. Yours sounds that she certainly falls on the far end of the spectrum on that one. I think she also has very poor social skillls. Has anyone told her how tacky she looks when she talks about the monetary value of things. My parent taught me when I was very small that it was rude to inquire about how much things cost, how much people made, likewise it is rude to share this information with others.

As far as the likes on the selfies-Ive heard my 15 year old dd be concerned about the same thing. I dont think she has a huge problem with narcissism-just a competitive teen thing. she has come to me and said soso always gets like 100 likes on her pics and I only get 50. With the advent of social media there are so many ways for kids to compare them selves to others-although strangely yours is comparing herself to dogs?

My dd15 is very pretty. She gets lots of compliments-I believe she would admit that she is attractive-I have heard admit this-however-I hear more frequently that she's too fat, got too many pimples, too this, too that-so despite her prettyness and moments of taking some pride (and yes perhaps conceit) in that, she has far more moments of doubting her self, questioning, having low self esteem-maybe your sd is just keeping the insecurities to her self? While advertising all the times she feels good-perhaps thinking maybe she can convince others around how beautifiul and great she is if she says ti enough times? I think a frank discussion with her about again how rude it is to tell other people that you are "flawless" and how it alos kind of makes her sound like she's fishing for compliments because she has such low self-eteem is in order.

I would just address it head on.