WARNING: This includes some not very nice, nor lady like language. You may want to avoid if that tends to offend you.

So today was a day of all sorts of new dramas and enlightenments regarding BM and my exH. Let's start at the beginning of the day....

I get a text message at 9:04 am from the lunch lady at school requesting that I call her when I have a chance. I reply give me a minute or two I'm still opening up my office. I call and an informed that this morning while doing her administrative work it came up that my stepsons are getting state aid and therefore qualify for free lunch at school, and since she knows they live with me and my bios, my bios also are eligible for free lunch, because if any child in the household gets state aid, all children in the household qualify for free lunch. Can you imagine the look of confusion on my face and how dumbfounded I must have sounded on the phone when I reply, "Ummm....my kids don't get state aid. None of them get state aid. What are you talking about?" She goes on to tell me that they are on her direct service report this morning and that a certified letter will be arriving at OUR home regarding the boys and their state aid and that because of that my bios could also get free lunch. I again repeated, we do NOT get state aid. She said she knew WE didn't but the boys are approved to get it. (in other words, BM applied for state aid welfare benefits and identified my stepsons on her application saying they are her dependents and she is their primary caretaker....LIE!!! BIG FUCKING LIE!!!) I hang up the phone FUMING!! BM did this a few years ago, right when DH and I first started dating. She stated she had the boys and therefore she qualified for Medicaid and state cash assistance and food stamps. Problem is that the State then billed my DH for the boys medical insurance through the state because he was supposed to be covering them and he was not even paying child support. NO SHIT he wasn't paying CS...HE HAD FULL FUCKING CUSTODY!!! ALSO...he was paying insurance premiums through employer funded insurance coverage of BCBS for his sons and himself. THEY DIDN'T NEED MEDICAID!!! DH was invoiced by the State and he went round and round and it was a shit storm of chaos and they threatened to garnish his wages before it all got settled. It finally did. See BM did NOT have insurance and in order to qualify for Medicaid she needed to enroll skids because then as their primary caretaker she would be eligible for state medicaid also. Can we say LOSER!!!! So all I can see is this same FUCKING BULLSHIT starting AGAIN!!! I call up DHS, I tell them I was informed by my children's school that they are getting state aid, however neither my husband nor I have applied for state aid, we would not come anywhere near qualifying for state aid and yes we have custody of skids. I believe their mother used skids as her dependents even though they aren't in order to fleece the government of money and insurance and she has done this in the past and it caused headaches for us and I want to be sure it is taken care of IMMEDIATELY. DHS worker asks for BM name, I give it AND MOTHER FUCKING SPELL THAT SHIT OUT for him to be extra sure. He asks who claims the skids on tax returns and I respond WE do as WE have primary custody. He thanks me for the info and it will be looked in to immediately and that it would probably surprise me how many people have no problem lying to get a free ride and whatever they can for free (NO SHIT!!! This is what is wrong with the assistance programs....the ones who TRULY need it struggle...while the ones who have NO reason to NOT work, choose to make it their paycheck and abuse the system) with no conscious and that although he couldn't give me specifics he would contact FOC to get the papers and the background for the skids and the verification of their insurance and that FOC would probably be able to discuss more with me as they are more intimately involved in our case. So I proceed to call FOC and leave a message for the case worker assigned to DH's case. He calls me back and informs me it has been taken care of. That the benefits will be stopped and the case closed effective Nov 1 and not to worry they have it all taken care of. PERFECT!! I tell DH about this when he wakes up and texts me this afternoon. He calls BM (not what I think he should have done but not my decision) and asks what the hell is she thinking signing his kids up for welfare benefits??!!! They were just signed up for hockey to the tune of $1100 and his kids DO NOT NEED STATE AID!! She informs him it's not his case so it doesn't affect him, he tells her it does when it involves his kids and when it means he will be the one getting invoiced for her lying bullshit and then tells her that her case is closed. She says if the state accepted it the way she submitted it then that's not on her..WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU??? YOU......YOU are the one who WROTE in the answers, who ALL OUT FUCKING LIED and committed fraud you useless POS!! He tells her well they have not accepted it and her case will be closed and he doesn't know what or if there will be recourse on her for misrepresenting herself but he hopes there is. She says "Well why shouldn't I get to have health insurance too!!!??? And I bring them to their dr appts (yeah three in the last four months....only to be a pain in the ass and nothing else...where have you been the last THREE FUCKING YEARS??? at least). DH tells her that's not his problem. Go out and get a job like everyone else does to afford bills, groceries and med expenses. And if she spent less time in the bar she might have a bigger pot to piss in and maybe afford the window too!! She says "You should spend YOUR money on YOUR kids! And you know I'm in the bar how?? You have spies on me?" He tells her "I don't know what the fuck you are talking about in regards to spending my money on my kids....they have food, shelter, clothes, extra curriculars and a bunch of other shit they don't NEED but WANT that are PRIVILEGES NOT REQUIREMENTS. As for spies...hell no I don't give a fuck what you do, however when you choose to make a scene and act like an idiot people talk...and whether you like it or not, hanging and I are well known and have a lot of friends who see your shenanigans and can't believe we have to put up with you." Her reply? "REALLY?? WELL YOU should hear what people say about you and YOUR WIFE!!!" He laughed. Told her he didn't give a fuck what anyone else said, he knows who and what he is, and the caliber of people she hangs around with aren't people who are any better than her anyway. That he also doesn't give a shit what she may want to say is said about his wife...he knows her too, and SHE is the one supporting the kids...not YOU since you can't be bothered...and need that cash for your drinks and pot on your nights out. You seriously took me to court less than two weeks ago to get joint custody...but you can't afford your children...tell me again that your reasons to get more custody had NOTHING to do with MONEY.

Needless to say...she wasn't happy to hear her little fraud wasn't going to go anywhere and that she may well end up with some sort of ramifications. I'm expecting the crazy to get ramped up....

THEN...I am also in a custody battle with my exH. He is trying to get custody from EOWE to EOW and I'm not agreeing to it. One of the big reasons was he worked a second job bar tending which meant he wasn't home from 4:00- 11:00 pm or later four nights a week. So in the FOC office at mediation he said fine he'd quit his second job ( the one he said he needed to make ends meet because he pays so much in CS...it's certainly not the HUNDREDS of dollars he spends on supplements for his muscles, ink for his increasingly larger and larger tattoos, or the new boobies he bought for the newest gf who actually has stayed around the longest and it's been a year I believe) and he then he sent a copy of his "resignation" letter to both me AND the FOC. Well, a patient at my office today tells me, so I met your ex last night...really? my ex? (they are not people that would hang out in the same social circles in any way...even if my exH decided to BE social). Yup, (insert ex name) right? Yeah...where was this? At xyz establishment, he bar tends there. Yes, yes he does....

In other words....exH did NOT quit, even though he sent FOC and ME a copy of the letter that he did, has told the children he did and that he needed to so he can get custody and that he won't have any money anymore (really?? wtf dude) and intends to present to the judge next week that he is NOT working...well have at it buddy...I'll be sure to let you hang yourself first and then let the judge see what a lying POS you really are....and not at all what you try to "present" you are.

Yeah...I got one called on for welfare fraud and the other I'll let perjure himself in court and then expose him...they will never learn...they may piss me right the fuck off and irritate me to no end....but mess with me and I will fuck you up!!