I'm sorry you're dealing with this, Guy. I've been in relationships like that, where you know it's bad but you just aren't "there" yet. I think you're right that something has to give. When that time comes, you'll just know it. Can you take your animals with you? I'm an animal lover and understand where you're coming from where they're concerned.

Have you tried seeing a therapist or counselor? I ask because I was at what I knew was the end of a horrible relationship, and just hadn't been able to leave due to the guilt I felt (the guy threatened to kill himself if I left). The therapist gave me the little push I needed to get out of a bad situation by reminding me that I wasn't responsible for someone else's feelings and actions, I owed him nothing, and I deserved better. It may help you as well.

I wish I had better advice. I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Your wife and SS sound like leeches.

OMG ~~~ RUN !!!!

It's never gonna change ~ save yourself. Your sanity is at stake. A mother smoking weed with her kid ~ what a mother of the year !!!

Well making your disapproval of it public is to publically acknowledge you know what they are doing. You are publically acknowledging that something illegal is going on in your home, yet you have not informed the police. You are in that case, aiding and abetting them to commit this crime.

Leave, it really s that simple.

Leave and leave the animals, like an op said. But absolutely do call animal welfare in your area if you think they're in danger. Your "wife" and her son shouldn't have custody of any animals. They should be appearing before a judge who will likely send them to jail and rehab.

Leave and call 911 on them.

The animals are like children to you. The reality is they are not kids, they are animals. You cannot allow animals to destroy your health and well being, you cannot allow animals to keep you in a situation where you feel you could potentially do something that would cause you to end up in jail. However the choice is yours, if you choose to keep using these animals as an excuse to stay in this relationship then own it. You can leave, if you really wanted to you could kennel them until you found a suitable place to live with them. Have you begun looking for a place yet. Or do you really want to stay where you are. If you stay and you do something that lands you in jail, you have no one and no animal to blame, it will be the result of choices you made.

You must go. Thats all i have for you. You know it too.

It's got nothing to be with not being an animal lover. I just value human life more. I'm not sure what your looking for here. You already have all your excuses for staying. No matter what anyone says,you come back with I an excuse as to why you have to stay. If you want to stay, stay. If you want to leave, leave. Interestingly you didn't answer my question as to whether or not you've even bothered to look for a suitable home for yourself and the animals.

You have a plan mapped out, but the question again is, have you even bothered to physically look for a place for yourself and the animals. It's interesting because your failure to answer is in itself an answer.

I gave you solutions earlier but you choose to keep coming up with excuses to stay. You don't know why I am HARPING on about a non issue. Really. Well f you had answered the question that first time I wouldn't have asked a second, if you hadn't ignored the question the second time, I wouldn't have asked a third. You complained earlier that the place you had to go to may not take the animals. You still,apparently haven't even bothered to ask the question of her about the animals . So you've done nothing but complain here about your miserable existence, not one damn thing about this VERY REAL issue you have of not having suitable accommodation to go to with these animals you profess to love like children. You haven't even bothered to start taking positive steps and finding your own solution to secure a home for them and yourself elsewhere.

You haven't reported this illegal activity to the police.
You still provide a home for them allowing them to us their money for drugs
You haven't left
You haven't even thrown her son out, let alone her
You haven't found a place for her and her son to go to so that you can remain in the current home with the animals.
You haven't made any effort to ask the question can the animals go with you to the place you have in mind.
You've done nothing to help yourself.
You've done nothing to change your circumstances. People can't help people who will not help themselves.
The above are all solutions you could have used to help yourself, but you choose not to, you choose to stay. So don't blame your partner and her son, it's not their fault you are enabling their illegal activity in your home. It's yours. You are not a victim here. You have choices.

Well from what you write, she's choosing pot over you too. You say you can't stand it. You say illegal activity is going on in your house and you say neither one of them will work. You portray both of them to be lazy potheads and you say she defends her son when you get upset over this. Is that a good enough reason to leav damn straight it is. A partner who chooses to bludge off you, takes her sons side over you, refuses to work, and uses whatever money she has, whether it be yours or welfare, or savings whatever, she has money to buy pot, and is not supporting you emotionally, in fact, according to you giving you a miserable unhappy life which you stay in only because of animals, is certainly a good reason to leave. But you, well you know this is wrong,. You know this is illegal, you know she defends her son over you, you know they both won't work, you know you need to find a place to accommodate yourself and your animals, and you have a job. You can get up and change your life, you are definitely not a victim n this. You are making a choice to stay. You are not dependent on her financially, you could be independent if you wanted to, but YOU CHOOSE to stay. So stay, that's fine, but don't blame her, the son or the animals for your poor choices. And no matter what anyone here comes up with. In suggesting ways in which you can help yourself, you come back with am excuse not to. You can choose to see yourself as a hero, or a martyr or a victim,. But your just a guy who makes bad choices and sticks with them because it's just easier than doing something about it.

And how does her name being on the mortgage stop you from taking at least one positive step and throwing out the son. Unless of course you are living in her house and your name isn't on the mortgage.

Takes two to play mind games. If you choose to buy into them, that's your choice. You've got nothing nice to say about this woman, nothing at all, you can make excuses all you like for staying. But the reality is, she puts a roof over your head and you put up with this because it's EASIER than getting off your bum, finding suitable accommdation for yourself and the animals and living by yourself paying rent.

But no matter, you've got an answer for everything, and none of it is your fault. Your just a poor wee victim aren't you. You can't leave because she will cry. Truth is you won't leave because your getting a payoff for staying. A roof over your head and a warm body in your bed. Doesn't matter to you if she is, to use your words, rabid, lazy and a pothead. Do her a favour, leave, you clearly have no respect for her or her son. Leave and allow her to find someone who wants her, not someone who uses her.

So she and her adult son smoke pot in her house (torture guy said her name is on the mortgage) Not legal but it is her home. So I assume at some point she either had a job or the house was left to her. She can't be on disability and have assets like that. So there is a lie there somewhere.

Second he knows of good women that want him - problem solved take your pets and go there.

He says his animals are like kids to him. Hopefully he never becomes a father if he thinks this lifestyle is good for kids.

That issue was addressed further back. He thought his backside was covered because he told people that he was against drug use in his house, and also because he had expressed that here to. I pointed out to him that he was also publically admitting to everyone he was well,aware of the illegal activity going on in his home and publically admitting he knew about it. But that went nowhere. He has an answer for everything, because he thinks he is a helpless victim in all of this. Yeah right. He is a hopeless enabler more to the point.