https://www.facebook.com/drmarinuschiropractic <--- look him up and his techniques. Bedwetting an come from a lack of signal reaching the bladder. 4-5 chiro sessions and it is solved. Sometimes it really is not a lazy child.

My SD finally outgrew the pullups at the age of sixteen. And yes, she wet them most nights before that.

My SD was still wetting herself and pooping her pants as of last year and she's 11 now. (she may still be but is cleaning up after herself better, don't know)

It's frustrating and smelly.

I actually ran across something SD wrote last year by accident this past weekend. I was looking for a book for SS to read and found "A Dairy of a Wimpy Kid" book in SD's room. I flipped through it and found it was a book where it asks questions and gives space to fill in the blanks. She only had one blank filled in.

It said "What is something you try real had at" She wrote "I try real had to not poop my pants"

Made me feel really bad for her.

Bedwetting can be the result of a medical issue. She should be examined by a doctor. If NOT medical, it could be psychological, she's too deep of a sleeper, or she's lazy.

I'm one of the SMs with a bedwetter. PigPen will be 13 in three weeks and he wets the bed Every.Single.Night. The last time the skids were here, PP wet the bed BOTH nights and left the sheets on the bed. I'm disengaged so I did NOTHING (except spray Lysol around their bedroom door). We had the skids this past weekend and PP slept on p!ssy sheets. Whenever they opened their bedroom door, you could smell the urine. I snuck in there Saturday morning and, sure enough, he'd wet the bed. He slept in it Saturday night, wet the bed again, and finally took the sheets off the bed and put them in the trashbag-lined hamper right before DH took them home. Since I'm a b!tch, I emptied an entire can of nasty scented Lysol spray in that room. Including aaaaaaaaaaall over PP's pillows, then I closed the door. The room no longer smells like a p!ss factory.

PigPen has been to the medical doctor. There is no medical problem.
PigPen is seeing a head doctor. The problem is that he is emotionally immature.
>He is scared of the dark and won't get out of bed to go to the bathroom.
>He hears noises at night (my DH works nights so he is up and about late, I get up to go to the bathroom, and we have a big dog) so he is too scared to get out of bed (he won't anyway because he's scared of the dark).
>He holds in feces for so long that, 90% of the time, his underwear is sh!t-laden (we bag and throw it away - GROSS!!!).
>Most of the time, he wears his p!ssy underwear the entire weekend. We figure this is why he prefers to stay filthy in an attempt to 'mask' the smells that emanate from his nasty person.

Good luck fighting your DH on this. I have BEGGED my DH to make PP wear Depends (the pig is 5'10 and weighs 170). He will not do it because PP keeps assuring DH "I'm sure I can hold it this time." I gave up. But I will fight this fight in my own way. And buy stock in Lysol....

BTW, the reason PigPen is not washing his sheets is because we currently do not have a washing machine.

My daughter wet the bed until she was 8. It was her breathing. It had nothing to do with her bladder or drinks, it was her inability to breath correctly while sleeping. As soon as she had her adenoids removed she never wet the bed again.

If you have tried all the tricks, with no success, get her breathing checked.

At 2.5years its not too alarming, though girls are usually faster than boys, its more of a concern if they are still bed wetting by 4-5 years.
Is she out of pull ups during the day?
For us, SD was fully toilet trained, day and night by aged 2, but with the custody change and her going to live with BM she was back in pull ups at night and sometimes still claims her BM is putting her in pull ups at night. We moved 6 months ago, shes had 1 accident in that time. So to me, she doesnt need pull ups.

Ultimately if you are disengaged and your DH doesnt see it as an issue then theres not much you can do, but try talking to him about it, if he wants to try to help then give him a few pointers. Sometimes dads feel theres "not much point" because they go back to their BM for the majority of the time. But if he has that opinion then you have to challenge it, how far does that go? No point in doing anything for her then?

Get him doing the usual stuff, if bedtime is 7.30pm then no drinks after 6pm, get a bedtime routine, bath, teethbrushed, try to pee then bed. Have her getting up at a reasonable hour, if shes in bed by 8pm then shes going to need to be up by 7am-8am to pee again, otherwise shes going to wet the bed.
If hes a late nighter he can always check on her and if shes not used the toilet before bed wake her to get her to try, but ofcourse, doing so may spark all the excuses for not being able to sleep again.

Personally I would take her out of pull ups, because kids arent stupid, she knows if she pees in the pull up then its not a big problem. Id get a matress protector and then try out Huggies Bed Mats, its essentially a nappy for on the bed, like a big sanitary towel. We just have the bed mat on and no protector because I find the protectors make the bed really sweaty. Then if she wets the bed, yes the bedding is wet but the matress is safe. And yes, in my opinion if SD wets the bed then she should be helping getting her bed sorted again. Even if its just stripping it and putting a new pillow case on whilst dad does the rest. Problem is, if her dads a lazy parent he wont because its too much hassle.

And if toilet training his daughter is too much hassle, then you can full expect to have to do all the big stuff for your shared child on your own. And maybe consider giving him a slap.

Both my SDs wet the bed. The youngest one STILL does almost nightly. She has been to doctors, taken pills, herbal remedies...
The oldest one still will every now and then but it was a sleep thing and puberty thing.
My husband wet the bed way into adolescence and so did my father-in-law.
They are all heavy sleepers and the muscles to control involuntary bladder release didn't develop until after puberty.
So we've got a couple more years until it rounds out and finishes....

Yeah, I had always thought my kid would be potty trained before age 2, here she is 21 months and every now and then shows an interest in the potty/toilet and wants to go, half the time she actually does something. She'll be all obsessed for a couple of weeks about wanting to sit on it, she sits on the dolly one she has too, she wants to watch me pee, her aunt pee, her oma pee... and then she doesn't care anymore for a couple of weeks.