I wouldn't even buy her one. If DH wants to, he can go ahead.

You'd be losing money because you'd be putting off (what I assume is) paying projects for customers who appreciate it/respect how much work goes into that kind of stuff.

On top of that,you KNOW she won't appreciate it, know that she couldn't care less how much time and money it costs you.

I'd say to tell DH to tell her that the doll won't be possible. Nope. No way!

Something that special and intricate is a gift that should be treasured! If there is any doubt in your mind that she won't appreciate it, then don't subject yourself to that.

On an aside, I'm curious. Would you mind sharing the link to the pattern? (If there is one?)

Yeah, I have learned the hard way that trying to please people who refuse to be pleased is a personal and emotional disaster for me, and me alone. I get a lot more respect by doing nothing, exactly what they do. At the very least, I respect myself a whole lot more.

Well, isn't she quite bold. Not only is she putting in requests for her baby shower, but she's expecting someone she's burned in the past to just pony up when she wants something.

I'd ignore her, too...although probably feel a bit mean, too, just because that's how I was raised.

"Ignore the whore"

Just ignore the request. Me - I'd get a b*tching perverse pleasure out of NOT giving her something she wanted.

SS's GF asked for a Keurig for her birthday a couple of years ago. I just totally ignored it. I think she got something that cost about $15.

When the GF had their baby I was not included in anything - but I sent several modest presents (it was just before Christmas). She bitched about how cheap we were as her parents bought literally thousands of dollars of stuff for the kid. Hell her mother even bought her a house.

So are you "on call" when you're needed? Go away during weddings and holidays but please spend weeks making me something I want. The entitlement attitude is just ridiculous.

I agree with everyone's post. Make your money and let DH purchase any gift he chooses to buy. You do not ever have to allow anyone to mistreat you. I know it feels mean, been there done that, but trust me you will save yourself hurt feelings in the end.

Soooooooooooo sorry, I suggest you ask someone else. Cant do it. My answer is no.

No is an answer or tell her the price.

Don't you dare do that for her. I crochet and know the time and effort involved. Let your DH Handle all gifts and just sign both names.

SS's babymamma has no clue that I crochet or that I made dozens of afghans for the children of my friends. She probably wouldn't care anyways as all she wanted is $$$$ to buy stuff she wants. She doesn't give a damn about anything except for $$$$ and her being able to access my assets (my homes and vacation homes).

She's an utter worthless POS as is DH's SS32. I am so glad that they are both "dead to me". I don't give a sh*t if they are dead or alive.

I am so thankful that my DH does not pressure me to do otherwise. Of course he would love for it all to be "okay" but he acknowledges the reality of the situation.

I am still learning as far as the steps are concerned. I just saw something the other day and thought what a perfect Christmas gift it would be for OSD and her husband but then I tell myself no, no, no.
I have in the past made plans to be out of town during any and all bridal showers and baby showers. I know how they feel about me so why invite me.
I was invited and then disinvited to OSD's baby shower. They were sure to tell me that I could still send a gift. Stupid to disinvite me. I wouldn't have gone anyway and sent a gift. That time I saved on a gift too. Now they are just putting it out there that I am not welcome. Well if I am not welcome and you are letting everyone know that then I am certainly not sending a gift.
Listen to everyone on here. If you are not "family" at Christmas or during the wedding photo's (neither was I) then you and your time and money are not family now. Just simply state that due to your existing work load you will be unable to do it or just ignore the request all together.

Why would you even think about doing this for someone who completely excludes you and is disespectful?

I would have stopped this crap a long time ago.

It may be being very passive-agressive ploy on her part to get you to do all the work when she will probably be donating it or throwing it away. Or she may want you to feel important by making something for her. Who wouldn't want to make something for the princess.