I need a little input please.

Ok my most common complaint is when everybody is doing something or one of my bio kids ask for something and my SD just sits there and looks at me like I should read her mind and just know that she wants some too. Am I wrong to be annoyed and expect her to open her mouth and ask for something? I mean my 2yr old can ask for stuff so I think a 11yr old is quite capable. Oh on a note she has been around me for 9 yrs now so not a new thing. I mention something on a regular basis so she knows how to get stuff at our house. Aother one of her querks is to ignore me. Why do they do this stuff?
Any input would be great

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I understand how you feel. I

I understand how you feel. I don't have much experience with kids, I have a stepson and I think you need to tell her that if she wants something not to expect you to read her mind. She needs to know that she's not any special than the other children and they're all equal. I'm sorry if i've offended anyone by my comment.

Although I don't have much

Although I don't have much experience with kids but I hope my input can help you out. Your stepdaughter needs to know that she's not anymore special than the other children in the house but equal. I would tell her that if she would like or needs something that she has to talk and communicate, you aren't a mind reader. I hope I was of any help and if i've offended anyone, my apologies.

looney,

This shit has so got to stop. And 26stepdad you too.
It's time for new rules and maybe therapy. These kids have to learn this is unacceptable child behavior. These kids are entitled to their feelings but not to disrespect you in your own home.

I like your thinking.

No tickee, no shirtee. lol
I'll second what Steve said.

My Step daughter

I have a SD from a former marriage(she is grown now). Her grandmother used to wait on this child hand and foot. She used to expect for me to do the same. I am not one to tip toe around children. I told her for example if you want a glass of water there is the cabinet and there is the sink. If not then go thirsty cause I dont wait on anybody. She got the point.

My point is why be afraid to speak up and just tell the child how it is.

My thoughts exactly

My Dh made me feel like a neglectful b***ch. Thank-you for telling me that my gut was correct. Thank-you all.

from experience

I have dealt with a ss who is very simular. My advice nip this habit out now. Unfortunatly even after years of trying to point out the obvious.."you have two feet and a heartbeat, and a voice to be heard" so if you want something get up and get it, or ask not expect to be served if the kids are raised at bm's to get everything handed to them unless taught otherwise this is what they know. I understand where you are at, my ss is 16 and can not do for himself when here, meanwhile my bio's at 4 and 5 are quite capable of getting a glass of juice when thirsty, or asking me when they need something else.

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