We're very active. I have a feeling this is not a very accurate representation of "average"... For us, normal is about 5 times a week or more. During period week I just do favors for him. So I'd say on average, 17 times a month and then maybe 5 favors from me to him and 2 or 3 favors from him to me.

Of course, we don't have any children living with us. Though HOPEFULLY it won't go down much from that when we do!

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

So far we are pretty busy. We are going on four years and we rarely go for more than two days. Sometimes am and pm too!. Hope it lasts!!

Once again Steve, you are right on the money. It is that exactly that I love about my DH.

No kidding. It's difficult to find the time when you have one kid not yet in school and hubby works an odd shift. He goes to work at 11pm and is home at 6:30am. I get up and start my day at 6:00am and go to bed at 11pm, when he gets up. If he works, we don't go to bed at the same time. Since he works most weekends at least one day, that usually only gives us one night a week of opportunity. When he's working a lot and we don't get that many opportunities, then it's once or twice a week or whenever he doesn't have to work. (If he doesn't get ANY days off, then sometimes we don't get the chance for two whole weeks!) When things were bad between us, we've gone months without. I guess on average, we get it done once or twice a week when he only gets one weekend day off, but when he gets two or three nights off in a row, we do it every single day. That would put our average at about 8 times a month or so. I think we would do it more if we actually went to bed together more, but honestly, I think we're both okay with once or twice a week regardless. His working nights has hampered our sex life a little, but it does give us the ENTIRE DAY to spend together and we do take advantage of it by working on projects together and just having more quality time together. It's a fair trade-off.

I don't think quantity is anywhere near as important as quality. I don't think either party should feel guilted into giving it up if they don't want to. I don't think there's an "appropriate" amount of sex or an "inappropriate" amount. I don't think age has any bearing on anything... as long as you put your Life Alert on the nightstand so you don't hit the button by accident right in the middle. I don't think fighting about not having sex is the way to go about getting more sex. I don't think it matters how long or how short a time span you've been married or how many kids you have or don't have. I think it's one of those things that you just have to go with the flow and if things aren't flowing, then you have to get creative and inspire your partner.

If we didn't schedule sex, we wouldn't EVER have any! But you know, sometimes scheduling it is good. Think about building the anticipation!

Don't worry, Fearless! You're not alone!

~ Anne ~

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."
-Eleanor Roosevelt

He's a firefighter and I'll be damned if I let him leave the house looking oh so fine in his uniform without being fully satisfied! lol

Put us down with the other rabbits on this site! 5 out of 7 days is the normal for me and my DH - still sheet grabbing and toe curling!!!!

When DH IS home and BM1 isn't calling up bit*hing about one thing or another and turning me into a big ice block, it's fanTAStic. Toe-curling, waking up the neighbors, spectacular! We joke about the old lady in the next apt. being able to tell whether it's "going away sex" or "welcome home sex" LOLOL

Blueberry's Baby

Kids or not, tired or full of energy.... That is a very important part of keeping the marriage good. I have never really kept track of how often, but I know we are being sexual in some sort of way all day long. I would guess roughly 5 days a week we actually do the deed. Usually one of those is a quickie. But we are always touching each other or "exchanging favors" (as you ladies have affectinately termed it)throughout the day, seven days a week... Unless one of us is on our death bed sick. And this is a decline from when we first got together. It was usually three to four times a day, and place the mood hit. We did go through a dry spell (about a week) where DH was rejecting my come ons and it was pissing me off and making me cry. Then I decided to solve the problem. I made my moves, he was too tired and didn't feel good so I told him "Fine, then you lay there and go to sleep. I don't need you anyway" I proceeded to take care of business right next to him. Needless to say, he suddenly felt better and joined in the fun. Now the only problem is that five days a week is still not enough for me but it will do.

NCP should have rights too! No matter what the world around us brings, DH and I always make the time for each other. Our sexual appetites is one of the things that brought us together and keeps us together. We both are extremly sexual so it is in every aspect of our life together, in and out of the bedroom(always loving on each other and flirting with each other). As for the actual deed,more often than not a week doesnt go by that we dont do the deed every day at least one time( sometimes two). Who needs meditation when you get this kind of stress relief.

but when he is home it is daily (at least once but usually more) and doesn't matter where at in the house so after a year together it is still SMURF for us lol and ohhhhh the favors that are also exchanged i sooo hope it stays like this forever!!

Live for today,you may not have a tommorow

Loony, that was great.

I'ld like to think BF & I are normal. 3-4 times a week, except that one week a month. For me, I take quality over quantity.
I just told him again last night, It must be love because no-one has ever rocked my world the way he does.

You tell me, is it normal for it to take about a half an hour to re-again normal speech after you finished?