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What in the hell ?!?!?!?! We will take it though....

imagr8tma's picture

We get an email from BM this morning... confirming she will be on vacation next week, that we are to have SD from saturday to saturday (7 days) and that we are to meet her 1 hour away from our house for her to pick her back up next saturday at 10. HUH?

This is not my DH's year for spring break. Not only that (look back in old blogs) she claims we abuse the child, leave her in unsafe places, hit/beat the child, over medicate her, forgot her meds, we cause her to have nightmares, she hides clothes to keep from coming here for visits, and is unhappy while here........ These things are in the counseling intake form, affidavit and motion she file for us to go to court May 6.

Now she is giving DH an extra 7 days for the spring break visit two weeks from the court date. I am thinking she is really nuts and doesn't think it will come back up in court. However she put in the affidavit that she has no money for her lawyer, the child's needs and is asking for relief but sends in a email she will be in Baltimore for the week.

Well, I am excited. We are going to be taking our first "full" family vacation together. All members present. Blum 3 We are going to Myrtle Beach all week and will have a blast. I am going to make sure we take plenty of pics and videos (for court of course).

Even though she thinks she is getting over.. We will really enjoy this week. SD's bday party is saturday in NC - So we are picking her up there bringing her back here and have a birthday party/easter egg hunt here as well. Then spending Easter with both our families and then going to the beach for a week. . . . Nice.

She will probably get very upset that DH has her on vacation with me and my daughter as well, but whatever that is what families do. This will be sd's first vacation..... I am sure she will love it. Her mom (BM) has told DH that sd is not allowed to be around us since we are not authorized by her (neither is his mom or sister or my sister).

I can't wait to see what she comes up with now -after she finds out about that trip. I really think she thought if she sent sd to be with us/DH during this week. He would be stuck at home and not be able to go anywhere. My daughter's spring break is the same time... so it worked out perfectly.

Hell, we might drop sd back off in NC since it will be on our way back home to VA. That way we don't even have to see BM or give her a chance to let her attitude rub off on us.

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kaffonseca's picture

Sounds exactly what you said..she ASSumed that your DH would be stuck in the house with her!! I'm so excited for you..make sure you take LOTS of pics and post them online for her to see Smile or send your SD home with an album with "vacation" pics.

It's always there way or when it's "convenient". My FH's BM told FH that he couldn't take "Baby" when she first found out about me..than a week later she had to move and asked him if I would watch him while she moved (are you kidding Me???) LOL!

petitesphinx's picture

Congrats with your extra time!!

The lawyers are telling the BMs to document everything that we SMs do, so you start doing the same to cover your butt in court. Here in AL, the BM could be a crack whore working the streets and still have custody, still drain the ex's money still come out looking like a rose to the rotten judge in this county.

Write down how if you abuse her kids, then why is she asking you to care for them for 7 days? Her vacation is more important to her than the welfare of her kids? The judge should be brought to notice that!

BM did the same to me. She tried to make the judge say that I can not be around her precious perfect 'babies' making my hubby choose between her & her kids and me and our baby. That blew up in her face and he chose me! She then months later emailed me asking me to get her girls early so she could go to work. Whatever, crazy, did you forget I am mean to your kids? Oh, that's only important when you don't have anything better to do.

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What I think:

Only a fool would mistreat the person responsible for his/her kids every other weekend.

She has chunks of her brain missing.

It's God's plan for us to be where we are, but so

Anon2009's picture

When BMs try to get our guys to "choose." IMHO the BMs need to realize that they're not choosing us over the kids- they're choosing us over them. Her kids are also a part of DH's new family with you and she's not and it's killing her. She is just going to have to accept that.

imagr8tma's picture

I think she does have a major problems with sd being in his "new family". But hey, we have a blended situation. I came in the marriage with a kid and so did he. He and I make the best of the situation.

She seems to have the constant issues. I wonder what she will do if she gets married. Or if her future husband has children. Oh My Goodness.... I would love to see how she handles that - if it ever happens.

BridgingTheGap's picture

I'm sure SD is going to have a really good time.

This proves that BM's only cause problems because they want to rather than because they are interested in their chid's well being. After all, if you and DH were as horrible as BM says, then why would she leave her child with you for a whole week?