Long story here and need some advice...

I have known my DH for almost 2 years and have been married for 4 months to him. I have received emails from his ex along with texts with stupid stuff like "You are only a fling" or "Do you really think he loves you?" bullshit...and each time he would say 'Don't allow her to enter our relationship..this is how she is'..putting it on me how I handled it because this IS how she is..she's done this to other relationships of his so I guess she's a part of the package deal you get when you enter his life.

NOW..for whatever reason an old flame of mine - who I have not seen in over 2 1/2 years texted me the other day to say hello..thing is, my DH has my old phone number due to getting on my cell phone plan..he told the guy he and I were married and I thought pretty nice about it. This guy would not know the difference because I have no idea where he is now and all he knew was my old number. As of last night, he texted again asking my DH to say hello to me..okay, really too much I know. I thought the guy was on the up and up but this was a little too much due to being told I was now married and please take the hint.

The kicker?

My DH got the text at work during 2nd shift, came in our home and told me about it..his words were "If I see that &^%$#$ out, I will fuck him up..I will soooooo fuck him up. He's trying to hurt our marriage and that asshole has had it."

Then had the nerve to ask me if there was any reason I could think of he would just out of the blue be texting me...I went livid. All the shit I have put up with over his ex wife..her texts, incessant emails....and a guy from my past says hello and he's gonna play Rambo and "fuck" him up. Okay...

So I guess we mark this all down to "we have kids together" which is the reason it's not such a bad thing that the ex was texting/emailing me so much?

I honestly and truly do not know WHY this guy suddenly appeared..maybe he simply DID want to say hello..he may have moved out of town for all I know..and could quite frankly care less. He hasn't been on my mind for quite some time to even wonder about. All he knew was my old number which my DH has at this time since switching to my plan.

EACH and EVERY time his psycho ex wife sent a message to me, I never once asked him if there was something I should know..I never once had distrust for him to even question the reason she was doing all that she did. I just KNEW she was a psycho...In my former marriage, I was cheated on numberous times and therefore do NOT see cheating as an option for myself due to the pain I saw firsthand that it causes.

On top of that, we find out that 'supposedly' his daughter got hit by her fiance, the father of her child. Blacked her eye...he found out on his way home...and told me so right before he dropped the 'f' bomb on me about the text he had received. When I asked what had happened to his daughter he began to get very angry about things and no matter what I said he was rude and hateful to me......I know that finding out she had been hit made him angry...hell, he's a parent..I expect anger...but don't take it out on me then threaten to 'fuck' someone up over a 'hello' text.

I could barely speak to him after all that and no matter what he said about his daughter I said nothing back. I was not about to have my head bit off over anything I said so I kept my mouth shut. He's at work now, but you can believe when he gets home he's gonna hear it about the comment about 'is there anything I need to know?' REAL quick.

Ideas??