HI people - this is going to be a long one because I have to give context.

My 33 year old adult step son and his fiance just got a new baby and he didn't even sms me to tell me. I heard via my husband whose words were "in case you the last one to know....XXXX is born". This stepson is the biological child of my husband who found my husband 4 years ago - he wasn't raised by my husband.

When my husband and I were just dating - I found him already to be an unlikeable person - and that is a general consensus in business as well as socially. Self centred and money oriented.

I have no problems with my husband's other bio children.

Add to the problem - my husband lives (for the next 12 months) in his home country but will move down here in a year. This stepson lives virtually round the corner.

He has had issues with me from moment one and then he had a huge issue with his DAd. They sorted it out but my name was constantly brought up. I finally decided to be the bigger person and say to my husband - I'll let bygones be bygones - and we visited twice before my husband went back overseas.

IN the meantime I was invited to the babyshower (only 5 ppl showed up - because he was there) but me and my mom brought gifts.

Now the baby is born and I wanted to be part of its life - but if he doesn't have the decency to tell me - I didn't ackowledge the birth. My husband told me over Skype.

I know I am doing destructive behaviour but I brought my part and now I have been kicked in the teeth again. My husband will come home to live here in a year - but I don't want to be part of this man's (my stepson's) existence.

I am going to see my therapist on Monday so that this doesn't affect me and my husband's relationship - but I am worred that it will.

Pls - I need comments.

My hubby and I are only married for 3 months..............

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