Am I a jerk or a genius?? Lol!!
I posted a whole back about my SS having a fit because I took my kids to the beach for the weekend for my daughter's birthday and he wasn't coming. The reason being is because he had sports that weekend so already had his commitments. DH explained to him that sports is his priority so dad is taking him and traveling is my and my kids priority so that's what we are going to do. We shouldn't have to not go do the things we enjoy because of his commitments plus their mother causes such drama over the sports and states they are more important to them than anything (which is bull! It's more important to HER than anything and they know to please mommy dearest) so we are giving them what they want.
So, my other daughter's birthday is this month and we are going on another girl trip. I also booked a cabin for spring break and we have had plans for Disney since we had to cancel last time because of Covid in the summer (they are not coming because they claimed to hate it when we took them a couple years ago after we got back and they went back to mom. They had the most amazing time and loved it but they know mom disapproved so they said they didn't really like it after all) Well we are huge Disney fans so guess what? BYE! I have HAD IT. We love to travel. I work and I save and this is what I want to spend my money on. My kids get a lot out of these trips and I LOVE that they have the travel bug like me and it's a wonderful bonding experience for us. I WILL NOT let them miss out because SS's want to play sports all weekend. If that's what they choose? FINE! But no way in hell are we going to sit at home and not do anything because of their choices. DH is completely supportive and says go have a great time! I can only imagine the uproar this is going to cause but I do.not.care. I will not sacrifice myself and my kids for ungrateful children. They think they should have it all and we shouldn't go if they can't. Ummmm no. I'm so excited for out little adventures and I can't explain how good it feels to disengage, let DH handle their outburst and to go enjoy time with my kids! Freeing!