What consequences are acceptable
I have set boundaries with DH of how blank makes me feel. But I'm uncertain of what consequence is appropriate for if he does the thing I cant accept.
I've tossed around ideas but I dont want to punish or retaliate, but rather send a firm message Im serious to the degree of what ever it takes for you to stop doing it.
Because I've decided I am not going to tolerate these dysfunctional toxic behaviors in my life. They will destroy my mental health. and DESTROY MY LOVE IN MY MARRIAGE.
So what are good consequences? I consider sleeping in the other room for one month, not allowing DH to touch or see me (you know,) the entire time. But that probably wouldn't matter. Or the silence treatment, but that's childish. I just can't seem to think of any good consequences that are effective and not retaliatory, childish.
What about inviting over a family member or very close friend (one willing) to discuss the issue with 3 parties. Public discussion of what he's doing to me. Bare his rear. Like a successfully married couple . Or our minister? I've got to have a consequence.