My SS 7 and SS 9 live with us and I love them totally as my own. Sometimes though I feel like I am doing everything wrong, and I do not know how to combat the issues. 

Our main concern is SS 7, I respect that he loves his BM to bits and I wouldn't wish for anything more, though her lifestyle and ours are very different. I feel that in his mind his BM is always right, so I must always be wrong when her and I are not on the same page. It makes logical sense for a 7 year old right?