i've gotten more selfish in my old(er) age. i just about gave up my whole life when my OWN kids were small and now it's time for me to live MY life. i find it interesting that if more parents would do what i did, there would be less of a need to parent other peoples' children. if people parented their own children, they could infuse them with their own morals instead of allowing other people to infuse them with their own. i parented to where other people weren't needed. if i can do it, so can they. but i do not doubt that people who carry not only their own burdens, but others' are indeed heroes, as long as they are not resentful and become martyrs