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Which is a surprise to me as much as anyone!
His bday is actually Wednesday. I was literally going to plan a gathering this coming weekend to include ss , dhs parents and brother Sil etc. They are just as slack as ss.
Ss waltzes in Thursday night and Says 'dad mums told me to tell you that we are away next weekend for (insert stepdads names) presentation...
I am sitting back and finding the humor in this exchange enjoying popcorn in my cozy bed as I am disengaged and have no reason to get personally emotionally involved in the drama ...
I haven't posted in a long time, mostly because I haven't really had anything to vent about. In part because I took the advice I got here, and found a way to connect with my step-daughter. It also helps that she's a great kid and DH is an amazing husband. He always made sure to include me in every decision. He always made time for me. It took a while for me to warm up to the whole being a step-parent thing. And it took a while for SD to warm up to me. (Also in part because we just cut out BM's parents entirely. Best decision of our life, I think. As harsh as it may have been.
If you have read my blogs before you know the struggle I have with my over stepping MIL. Also SD has not been coming on her weekends and when she does she will stay at MIL house the entire weekend, good... Funny how SD all the sudden cares about MiL when she never ever did before . I also think SD is over there telling them lies as to why she does not wanna come to our house. SD has been extremely jealous of the fact the DH has other children, something that BM has also expressed .
The conflicting emotions of the weekend have got me all kinds of screwy.
Our niece (my brother's eldest of 3) was in town for a conference. We saw her on Friday evening and she stayed with us Friday night.
28yo, beautiful (yes I am biased but I am not just saying that), successful, an amazing person, in a strong marriage (17mos and counting) to a true counterpart for her, and she has an incredible heart.
Calls out of the blue. Because he wants something, of course. He wants Chef to come out and fix his roof after he screwed up the flashing. He lives about 30 min away in far end Girhippoville.
Just ugh. We have a million of our own projects!
Wedding was drama free! Thanks for all the good karma wishes everyone - they worked.
Ok so I don't have a DH problem. I have a BM and SD issue. They are both as toxic as each other. I told DH SD8 is not innocent in what she does for the past 2 years. Seriously it started when she was 6. He wasn't naive to this but I feel he definitely held a small flame for her in hope some of himself was still there in SD. She is toxic BM all over, looks and personality. Shame. Anyway now she's 8 it's definitely permanent. I decided to step away and leave her to DH. I've done this for a good while now.
DH called SS10 today for our usual twice per week call since visiting him last weekend. It was evident DH was on speakerphone. Of course, BM wasn't there - it was GF taking SS to a school event. During their call, GF chimed in, telling DH about how much fun SS had with us last weekend and how he couldn't wait to tell them all about it. DH said that GF's comment seemed genuine and sincere, not petty or sarcastic. SS then confirmed that he had a great time with us.