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Stalking O/T

Acratopotes's picture

What is considered as stalking? not per law but in your own view....

Years ago I dated a guy, well we made an appointment to meet at the jewelers for the engagement ring (4 years of dating), I waited 20min, he called and said he will not be able to make it.... I went back to work, that after noon when I got home, he moved out with all my stuff, I only had curtains left nothing else.... well I picked myself up and started again..

After 3 months he started driving past the house, the office, the gym, the hockey field, If I went out with friends, low and behold he was in the same pub 5min after I arrived, if any car was parked in front of my yard he would smash the windows... poor reverent lol...it got so bad that I got a RO against him, small town it's difficult but he can not be within 50ft of me.

This I consider stalking... not that my life was ever in danger, it was just very very irritating...

Now what about internet.... what about some one stalking you on internet... how does that work?

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Acratopotes's picture

Internet I'm meaning..... a person you do not really know keeps on following you i=on internet around and looking at every thing and move you make on FB... keeps on looking for you in different forums etc...

Acratopotes's picture

I will not delete you lol...

but what do you call it then if people keep on pestering you on internet, and not in a nice way, more a challenging way?

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

harrassment, maybe? and what was his dealio anyway? He broke up with you and then three months later is mad if someone comes over to visit you? What a nut job. You are so lucky you didn't end up married to him because then they get even more possessive

Acratopotes's picture

oh the boyfriend is not the one that's bugging me on internet....

I just tried to explain what I saw as stalking...

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

I had a stalker once. When I was 17 I worked at Mr. Donut. Every day this creepy guy would come in on my shift and order a donut and a cup of coffee and stare at me. He started asking my coworkers my schedule and would sit there with his one cup of coffee and stare at me my entire shift even if its was four to six hours. Then he started getting mad when my boyfriend at the time would pick me and try and tell me the boyfriend wasn't right for me. He said, "You are so beautiful I bet you model. Can I see your portfolio?" And then I'd see him in his car outside the donut shop when I got off and he'd try and follow me.

And then it escalated with him entering the back of the business where we make the donuts to try and kiss me and he grabbed me. I was all by myself! I had to call the police. The police banned him from the premise but my boss lifted it. He said, "that man buys a cup of coffee and a donut every single day. Do you know how much money that is annually?" But the guy was only coming in there to buy the coffee and the donut to stare at me. He was way over 35 and I was 17. So my mom made me quit and off I went to Kmart and so he stopped going to the donut shop.

Once a good 10 to 15 years later I was in the mall and I saw him and he got the crazed look in his eye and started trying to follow me but by then I was working at the police station and knew the mall officer.

But he was a total stranger who just became fixated on me.

Acratopotes's picture

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: }:) for all you know he was your perfect husband and now you chased him away... that's why you struggle with skids lol...

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

UGH.. Yuck. He wore sweater vests covered in cat hair and he had the most white pasty skin.

notsobad's picture

I think if someone is obsessed with you and follows you around they are stalking you.
Now that can mean physically or digitally.

Someone creeping your FB page and looking at all your friends posts to see if you commented is an obsession. Same with Twitter and Instagram. Just because they are public forms doesn't mean you aren't being stalked.
That used to be the argument against stalking, it's a public place, everyone has a right to be there if they want. Like the donut shop NoWire was working at.

The main difference as I see it is that there isn't any physical contact online. But it's still creepy as all h*ll to know someone is watching you obsessively. And you never know if they'll take it to the next level and show up at your work or home.

I would say amp up all privacy settings and maybe even take a break from social media.