BM the drunkard

Last night BM arranged to meet DH for drop off a little later and at a parking lot, instead of at her house, because she was over at her friend's house.

I didn't join, I was home, so he told me what happened.

He said he pulled up and she pulled in moments later. Skids are plenty old enough to jump out of the car with their backpacks and go with BM, and that is what they usually do - quick and easy.

BM had been drinking (she is known to get very sloppy/slurry when she drinks.) Anyway, she hops out of her car, leaving the door wide open and goes careening over to DH and skids shouting "MY BABIESSSS" as if she hadn't seen them in weeks (it was a 5 hour mid-week visit). When she jumped out of her car, her annoying little dog hopped out and bolted. BM starts shouting frantically for the dog. So DH, skids and BM had to chase the thing around the parking lot. DH retrieved the dog and placed it back in the car.

DH suspected she was "shitfaced" when she jumped out of the car, but was able to confirm it after seeing her shouting like an imbecile in the parking lot.

She denied it, but then decided "not to argue" and got back in the car and drove herself home with DH following with the skids. He dropped them off at the house - her boyfriend was there and sober.

If DH or I pulled a stunt like that - she would rip the kids from him immediately. Probably contact the authorities and the media. I am afraid to drive with the skids after drinking 4 ounces of wine with dinner, for heaven's sake.

After he finished telling me, I just rolled my eyes and went back to reading my book.

Never a dull moment.

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I would ask the skids if she

I would ask the skids if she has ever drove drunk. She obviously didn't think anything of it last night... so it's possible that she has done it before and feels comfortable doing it.

GROSS. Good for your DH.

GROSS.

Good for your DH.

I am a bitch, so if I were

I am a bitch, so if I were following her and I suspected she was drunk, I would have called 911 to report the drunk driver...

Not disagreeing but do you

Not disagreeing but do you think that would have been okay to do with the skids in the car?

Yup - I would have had ZERO

Yup - I would have had ZERO problem letting the skids learn the lesson that drunk driving is wrong wrong wrong...

I would not be in the habit of protecting the BM or the skids from the BM's idiocy.

It's better than letting them

It's better than letting them continue to be in a dangerous situation.

I agree he should have called

I agree he should have called on her. He didn't want to upset the kids, stir the pot, I don't know. I am so sick of that trashy bitch of a woman acting like mother of the year when she is far from it.

The thing that makes it even

The thing that makes it even worse in my mind, is a few months back DH and I took the skids for pizza at a local place, and some of DH's acquaintances were there at the bar. So they came over to our table and bought DH a beer, while we ate and chatted. The guys were clearly not leaving and wanted to order more "rounds" when DH and I said we would love to stay but had to get the kids home. We left and when we got home BM called, she was all exasperated because one of the "friends" (married to BM's friend) mentioned he saw us (the news traveled back to BM at lightning speed) and she "heard we were getting drunk at the bar" with the skids in tow.

She tried chewing me out for that and I told her I wasn't drinking and we took my car... and regardless we were there early afternoon for a pizza. Told her to get her facts straight.

Seems like she has a guilty conscience.

I too think that he should

I too think that he should have called 911. He could have done it while everyone was looking for the damn dog.

It is lucky that she didn't demand that the kids ride with her but she easily could have and then what would he have done? Allowed it because he didn't want to upset the kids?

What if she'd had an accident while he followed her? That surely would have upset the kids.

You all must know that this isn't the first time she's driven drunk. This won't be the last time either. Next time DH might not be there to take the kids.

How will he feel if they are in an accident and god forbid someone dies? He will spend the rest of his life knowing he could have prevented it but didn't because he didn't want to upset BM or the kids.

It's easy to not do the right thing when nothing happens. You justify and say nothing bad happened, everything is fine.
Then one day something bad does happen and it's so hard to deal with the guilt you have to live with because you KNOW you should have done the right thing.

YES!!! OP, can your husband

YES!!!

OP, can your husband have this conversation with the skids? Do they have cell phones??

I will talk to him about it.

I will talk to him about it. SS has a phone.

I know I should have probably discussed it further or at least feigned interest last night, but I am sick of "dealing" with her. I was into a really good book and kind of have myself trained to only half listen when it comes to her.

Not trying to minimize the seriousness of it. As much as I cannot stand her and I know she is both a sloppy drunk when she consumes liquor and a moron; I was surprised to hear about her pulling that at a pick up. It isn't out of character for her to act erratic when sober but I never pegged her to be a drunk driving mom, either.

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I would ask the skids if she

GROSS. Good for your DH.

I am a bitch, so if I were

Not disagreeing but do you

Yup - I would have had ZERO

It's better than letting them

I agree he should have called

The thing that makes it even

I too think that he should

YES!!! OP, can your husband

I will talk to him about it.

He let the kids stay with her

the boyfriend was home.

I would've recorded her on my

LOL! Picturing her

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