DH got a notification this morning from the jail's automated system saying that SS was released. Did SS call him? Of course not!

About an hour later, BM texted DH asking if he was going to be home today, if he had SS's Walmart (paycheck) card, if we still had SS's things, and a couple other questions that only required DH to answer yes or no to. He didn't say anything about knowing SS was out yet.

Another hour passed and BM asked DH if he was going to be in an hour so that could stop by and get SS's stuff. DH told her yes. I asked DH what his plans were if they only took some of SS's items, explained I wasn't having my time interrupted multiple times a week any time SS wanted to stop by to get more stuff. Said we needed to set down boundaries. DH have me the answer I expected, "I don't know".

Next text from BM was asking DH if he was still home because they were almost here. They showed up about 30 minutes later pulling a small trailer from a storage facility.

SS was very cold to DH, packed his stuff in to the trailer without saying much. I did notice the first thing he did was open the to drawer of his nightstand... that's where we found the second set of needles (first set was used ones on his bed). I told him the only thing in any of his drawers was a screw for his bed. He then out of nowhere told me that his roommate had let one of his friends stay at the apartment the day after SS was taken to jail. Funny SS, cuz roommate already told me that someone had a key to the apartment and broke the lock off roommates bedroom door but that none of SS's other friends had stopped by. I told DH ask this after SS left, he said that SD told him that roommate was a frequent liar. Sure she did DH, how come you're only now telling me this? Whatever.

After we got everything loaded, BM made all sorts of demands about DH turning SS's phone back on, with the same number "because SS didn't know you had turned it off and he already gave the number to his PO". Instead of telling her no and suggesting SS just go get a cheap prepaid phone, he said he would call Sprint.

DH asked SS what his plans were, SS said that they were going to put his stuff in storage, and that was it. Still giving DH the child shoulder.

BM then whined that they didn't know where SS was going to go, they couldn't call most places until Monday, maybe Tuesday because of the holiday. Wah!

BM asked SS if he needed a couple minutes to talk to his dad or if he was ready to go, he said they better go, were on a tight schedule. And off they went.

I told DH the only way I would even consider okaying him to turn SS's phone back on was if SS paid us 3 months up front and gave another 3 months at the end of 2 months. But that the better solution was for him to go get a prepaid phone and call his PO right ash to explain what happened. He says he did text BM this but she hasn't replied.

DH is still upset that SS is blaming him, no matter how many times I remind him that SS is only doing it so he doesn't have to take the blame/responsibility for his choices. I give up.

He did say he posted on that site I found for him, http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/friends-family-substance-abusers/ but nothing else has been said about it. I did briefly see if I could find his post but then let it go. Figure I wouldn't want him to look me up on here, he deserves his privacy as well.