SDSTB13 is home! Things looking up.
So she is on medication and spent almost two weeks at the facility. When she came home today, her entire demeanor is different, lighter, easier, making eye contact. It really seems like things are looking up. We talked about the issues she is having about going back to school and it was even easier talking to her without the extreme defensiveness.
It's like a glimpse at the child I raised before the past year of sullen attitudeness.
I am very hopeful. I am also being conscientious of how I phrase things and respecting her feelings and validating her feelings rather than the "you're 12, its a boy you snuck to date for one week, get over it". Medications are in a lock box. She is on restriction as far as not going to friends' houses for a while and monitored closely. She did not balk at all and said she fully expects to have to re-earn trust and she realizes now her perception was so off. She handled some significant drama with friends tonight (they were talking rumors about her) with my help she talked to them on facebook and worked through it without getting all crazy and I think things are going to be okay.
Things have been calm this past week with DH. My mother is still CO for good. We have therapy session set up for Thursday night and she will be going to regular therapy/counseling.
I scheduled an appointment for her with a psychiatrist and I have my medication ready to start taking when I deliver the baby as well as a psychiatrist appointment set up for January for me for meds monitoring/refill for my depression cycles (and concerns about PPD).
Feeling relieved right now. Blood sugar had been really high (OB said stress related as I was not eating much and was throwing up when I did eat for that week), but is getting better now.
I feel relieved and hopeful the next couple weeks will be calm. *Crossing fingers*
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Thank you! I am hopeful, but
Thank you!
I am hopeful, but aware. She has this "bad ass" attitude now cause she is "rough" now. I laughed my ass off. She told me she is going to kick someones ass at school and cuss them out. I again laughed my ass off. See, she was around those kids at the facility that have "anger issues" and NOW, lo and behold, SHE has discovered SHE has anger issues! Coincidentally she discovered she was suicidal after a girl on the bus was getting a lot of attention when she told people she had OD'd last year.
Oh and her safety plan says she gets to lock her bedroom door and that she cannot get in trouble because it makes her want to kill herself if we call her out and ground her because it makes her think of allll the stuff she ever did and makes her want to OD... I told the therapist that 1. She will NOT get to lock her bedroom door EVER, and be excited if I let her CLOSE the door again and 2. We are not going to let her have her way on the threat that "getting caught/called out makes me kill myself". BS.
She tried. She tried really hard to make us accept that she did not lie and manipulate and all this other stuff that came about with this incident, but I absolutely refuse to pretend like that. I told her that her feelings are valid and I will listen, but she has to be honest about the situation to move on (She said she didn't care about the boy and was just peer pressure..but she wrote "our love will never die; I love you but my mom is making me break up with you; together forever they don't love me" - yes, after four days of "dating" her best friend's boyfriend.
The drama: While she was in the hospital, the BFF and the boy in question got back together and were making out.
The boy and the BFF made up rumors that *I* facebook messaged him and cussed him out and called him a "N***" spelled with an *igga not the full word. First, I have never used the original word in my life, and second, I have certainly never used that word with the -a instead of the -er.
I am so pissed at that BFF of SDs. That girl told everyone at the school that *I* cussed out and name called a 13 yr old boy, whom I have never met or spoken to.
I have not read what they "claim" I said to the boy. I have had too much stress and difficulty in my third trimester already to put up with little brats like them.
One thing is for sure, BFF is not welcome in my house again.