therapist instructions on speaking to sd14 so not to make her mad
Emotional dysregulation. That is what they call it. This is code for borderline but they don't like labels on the borderline personality disorder person. Ok. So I have to keep my mouth shut essentially and limit how much I talk so I don't give SD14 too many words or sentences to twist around d to manipulate.
I cannot say "my baby" when referring to my 13 month old baby... yep I can't say "my baby" because I make her feel like an outsider in her own home.. wtf.
Four long ass years left with princess center of attention. Then God I hope she goes away.
It's hard on DH I know. He tries but she's sick in the head. She tantrums over four questions on a homework sheet... I have to show her the paragraph to find the answer or she has a melt down. She texts people how she has the worst imagine life and aww she tried to kill herself so many times um exaggerated as always... and aww cuts self blah blah aww no one loves her and doesn't matter or belong just o. And on. And I sit and deal with it every single day when she gets home. I deal with the shits homework. I am so sick of her BS. Yet here I am still trying every day. DH works till 6:30 or I'd leave her crap all to him.
Sometimes I think I should let miss pitiful just flunk 8th grade. I quit monitoring food and she is bigger than me now. Whatever.
I am nice and act affectionate but I know how she is and wont forget. She lies and sneaks and manipulations and twists and exaggerates and plays victim for pity. I am good to her. She has a freaking great home life yet always texting and cry I g to people how terrible her pathetic life is and how mistreated she is. Yeah she doesn't get yelled at! !! She loses phone a whole week. Awww abuses!
I wish she would go live with her mother all summer or somewhere else and she can see how freaking great she had it here. I wish I had her home life at her age. No hitting no cussing no name calling no mean punishment consequences are fair and come consistent for the behavior. Family dinner and tv show and nice phone and fancy shoes. Helped with homework praised daily for anything really.
I cannot forgive her for the past year. I never will. I tolerate her now. Hope she moves out at 18. My babies. ..oops I mean that baby and this fetus not born yet will be about 4 & 6 I think. Will be time to not revolve around her princess psychopath. And she says all the time how she will be driving g them to school and taking them out and havi g talks... hell no! Manipulations to pity her talks no way. Ugh.
Therapist said she will learn to manage emotions but I dunno. We'll see. I have to tip toe on eggshell for a few years I guess. Don't upset her or piss her off its her way or tantrums! Fuck that. She act ugly I front of "this baby" and shithead is sent to her room until daddy gets home.
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whoa I think your therapist
whoa I think your therapist is way off track here. When we work with "emotionally dysregulated" kids, we look for the neurobiological root, are there sensory processing disorders driving the dysregulation, etc. And then we give those kids coping strategies. We work up a plan. They are responsible for enacting the plan!!!! Parents reinforce the plan!
And you go ahead and call your baby YOUR BABY.
And then go find a competent therapist. *smh*
Every single week $30
Every single week $30 copays.
Says teaching coping skills but I'm sd14 primary trigger apparently. She losing friends because she so pathetic all the time its sick.
She writes friend a birthday letter full of you so pretty and all this suck up stuff and puts in how "she's so broken and unloved andhope ffriend still loves her but knows friend deserves better best friend so just tell me when to go away and she will because she so ugly and stupid and no one love her anyway and she knows how lucky to have friend in life and she so broken over being grounded and is always being punished for nothing and.. more and more crap about feel sorry for SD14. .. oh a d she lost the phone for ONE WEEK for failing classes for not doing a y homework. ... one fucking week.. seriously. So abused! Omg!
When she starts her mood problems around "house baby" I send her to her room and say pull it together or be like that in your room you're not stressing out /house baby/. Lol
and according to this very
and according to this very basic article, why would she have any incentive to "eventually learn to manage her emotions?"
and… "Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. This is probably the hallmark of BPD."
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-walking-eggshells/201203/why-yo...
This is SD14 down to the
This is SD14 down to the manipulative self loathing self pitying wire. She does that abandon thing with me and her friends. Its sick.
Yeah not really buying the
Yeah not really buying the try not to make her mad, ooo she's an outsider thing. Need new therapist, avoidance doesn't teach anything.
Yeah she's great at playing
Yeah she's great at playing victim and getting pity. She makes up or exaggerated stuff to be.not abuse but bad mistreated for sympathy and she gets her pity. Its sick.
Truth is...I don't want her here its true! I admit it! I DON'T like her! I just smile and hug and pretend. Aww you so great aww poor you aww we love you aww you so smart blah vomit.
The therapist actually told
The therapist actually told you not to call your baby or the new baby "My baby"
WTF are you supposed to call them?
I mean really WTF!!!
That random kid over there and this baby here????
You carry a baby in you for all those bloody months - I think that kind of entitles you to bloody well call it MY baby if you freaking want to!
Get a new therapist this one is talking shite.
"House baby" I guess?
"House baby" I guess? PrincessSD14's brothers? Those babies?
See I said to SD14 "with my baby you do NOT over ride my decisions or ignore my decisions i make with my son; when you have a baby you as mother will make decisions but until the. This is my baby".
Waaah I said my baby. I'm excluding princess fro. The household. Seriously. This was her huge pity party for herself that I
Made her feel so excluded...
Day to day. She's all about
Day to day. She's all about manipulating for pity. She must be center of universe or she's being mistreated. She has the meltdown over FOUR questions on a worksheet and waaah can't look in the book its too hard and waaah makes her feel stupid.
Four more years. Highschool... then i hope she is out.
I told DH if she does any tin y thing to "the baby" he best find her some where to live or me and "those babies" will move back out of state to my family.
She's hateful with me if I act upset at all. Like I can have NO emotions. Then its all a out her. But so far she's not getting violent any more. The time she threw something I told her if it even bounced and hit that baby or me she better be prepared to go live elsewhere.
She is NEVER alone with "the
She is NEVER alone with "the households baby". He sleeps in our room. She isn't even in the living room with him while I cook. I keep him in my sight at all times.
I do not trust her. She lies and causes problems for attention.
It does suck. I can't change
It does suck. I can't change because this is ...as SD14 loves to announce to people... her Sex Abuse Counseling Center for she alleges she was raped her whole childhood when she visited her mother. I don't know if it is true or not but I know the man she accused was not pursued by police and felt he was innocent then she recanted she didn't think police would find him since he moved out of state and we didn't know his last name... then allegations against neighbor oh she said the psychiatrist that did her psychiatrist evaluation was coming on to her and the cable man that installed out cable a few months ago followed her and was trying to look down her shirt. Well put on a fucking g bra and stop trying to be in his face. I watched because I knew shed need saaaaving since she gets attention this way and the man barely glanced at her and her giant floppies. He avoided her. I told her he was gay and she said oh never mind! ... so when told cable guy was gay all of a sudden nothing happened. Oh she almost got a boy she was mad at e pulled fk r sexual harassment. ..he called her a bitch and kids reported she told him he'd pay. She "paybacks" people who dare wrong her.
Wow, next time she pulls the
Wow, next time she pulls the wanting to die or trying to kill herself card take her to the er, tell them she's suicidal and let them lock her up for observation.
BTDT last year when we
BTDT last year when we thought she had bipolar or depression problem. She has fed off that ever since telling everyone she was in a mental institution and is on "emotion pills". It's so pathetic. We made the decision to go to ER and have her put in the children's psychiatric facility for two weeks for treatment thinking we were helping her, but in fact she was getting off on it. She loves telling people how she cut herself and suicided (the girl was well educated on medications she took and she took one dose of vitamin, one dose of cold medicine, one Plaquenil that she takes, and then eight hours later she claimed she took a second dose of all the medications. Does that sound like someone killing themselves?
She left me a note taped to my door **I was eight months pregnant and she was nasty and awful** and her letter said essentially "you don't love me, no one love me, you make me kill myself and make me not be the secret second girlfriend of my best friend's boyfriend behind my best friend back so I am having a medical emergency, but that's fine just leave me in my room to die"..
Yes this "I'm having a medical emergency, but you don't care and don't love me so just leave me in my room to die cause I know you want that"
Fucking VOMIT.
I am very good to her, but I know who she really is now and I do not like her, trust her, believe her, or anything any more. I'm caring and nice and generous but I am never falling for her manipulation and backstabbing and lies ever again.