So she intentionally was a total POS during my last pregnancy and admitted to trying to "get me" and "hating" me and extreme jealousy. Yes she's in therapy and on medication.

We told her we're pregnancy and she coincidentally cut herself with broken glass all up her arm txyz he next night. No one can talk about this pregnancy around her or she has an episode again ..coincidentally...

Oh I cannot be sick, cannot be tired/frustrated, cannot be irritable in any way, and cannot be mad or sad EVER or she has an episode and escalates. *Last time, she threw things and it almost hit my baby. I told her in my calm voice if she ever hits him or me on purpose OR accident by throwing something- I would have her removed from my house.

Today, she was downloading her pictures of her girls she edits and I told her (sweetly) remember you're supposed to clear any websites you're downloading from with me on MY laptop before you download. She goes on about how SHE KNOWS and it's JUST x website. I said I'm sure you're right sweetheart, but its about respecting other people's property and clearing a site with me on my computer. This is why we can't let you go to the mall on your own or do things right now even though we really want to let you. (She steals and tells boy she'll give him a BJ if they can get alone and tells us she CANT say no to anyone and NOTHING is her fault at all). I told her she's been on from 10 am to 4pm that's six hours so how about we take a little computer break. She stomps off and gets her COLORING BOOK and CRAYONS (age 14) and stomps to her room.

No one in the family even acknowledges that I'm pregnant because it upsets the 14 yr old princess. Seriously. They asked about it during Sunday family dinner and she made a big production of slumphing off to the living room and pretended to be asleep the rest of the night.

Oh she's in a facebook group "Broken Angels" where they talk about how they cut and tell each other they're beautiful and pitiful and cry all day.

I'm sure I sound callous. I've been through it with my pregnancy last year literally revolving around SD14 suicide attempts with two doses of cold medication and two doses of vitamins (later admitted was taken eight hours apart). She was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for depression. It was all manipulation though. She runs tests where you have to prove you love her ENOUGH and in the way she wants or else.

At this point, we're paying $40 A WEEK on therapy and paying medications every month on top of that.

I DREAD summer. I'm due in first week of July. She did everything she could to make me miserable and would say "Gosh, I hope you don't get stressed and your baby die like the first two pregnancies you had" (I miscarried first two and told her I couldn't get upset and stressed out) but she'd do things intentionally to upset me... at that point, I was so naive I didn't realize what she was doing I kept falling for it and thinking she loved me. Now, I just tolerate her. She thinks she's living here during college, but she's not. The house REVOLVES around her. She even was about to blow up the baby's birthday party. She has ruined most things for me and tries with the baby. can't leave her alone with him.

Her spite and jealousy are out of control. She operates like a five year old with no impulse control and completely dysfunctional out of control emotional state with rages. Seriously she got her nose out of joint because I asked her sweetly to not pull the fan cord (she was doing it because Dad used the cord and SHE wanted to do it). She gets a bitchy attitude and stomps and huffs over THAT!!!!!

In four years this girls gotta go. I had to get her gift on one year old's birthday to appease her jealousy.

MY mom took SD14 to mall and bought her stuff and it was "SD14 day"... the next day we spent one hour at ToysRus for my mom to get DS1 a Christmas gift and SD14 whines and tries to make us buy HER a gift a snowcone maker because she wants it soooo bad she loooooves it waaaaaah.. it was just to make us buy her something during his trip!

She's so freaking selfish, jealous, spiteful, and hateful. I dread each day she's home. I can't ever have any emotions and just smile and constantly praise her. She eats twice as much as me or DH and she used to ask me to help her and tell her no then she'd cry to people that I was controling and not letting her have a second piece of cake, so now, she can eat WTF ever and she's already bigger than me at 14 and she's going to be 200 by next year, but fuck it. I'm done with it. She was telling teachers she was abused by me emotionally at home for pity; she was telling me she was abused by teachers but me talking to them would make it worse... FULL BLOWN manipulation and spite

I smile. I praise. I talk sweet only. I try to remember never to call her down. I really just want to survive four years and be done. If I say ANYTHING to her she has screaming crying fits about how I'm "sooo extremely mad at her for nothing and how she can't do anything right and it feeeeels like I push her against walls and juuuudge her". WOAH WHAT??? Because I told her if she tells me she wants to stay home from school the last day and gets huffy over it and 'misses her bus' then I have to shower and try to take her and run out of time I say well I guess stay home...she tosses a fit how it's MY fault she has to stay home and how bad she wanted to GO?!? W...T...F... seriously omg.

i have tried and tried with her. She's pitiful and abused all the time if she doesn't get her way. I'm just going to treat her like a stranger's mentally ill kid with extreme caution and wait out my four years term.

She's already trying to cause problems for my current pregnancy so bad that no one talks about it. In fact, DH FORGOT... oh and also, I had twins and miscarried one. Of course SD14 was a complete shit the two weeks I was on rest trying not to lose baby A. She didn't know about the twins nor the loss because she'd use it to just make life hell and use it for more attention and pity for herself.

I admit it. I don't like her any more. I used to adore her so very much. I refused to believe she would do these things or be like this, but she does and she is. I just have to tolerate her. I can't stand for her to hug me any more.