Me too, it gets so bad some times I fell like I am screaming inside and it does no good. But like I have been telling myself "what ever it does not matter."

While I can see where everyone is coming from, and from the point of "in the child's best interest" I agree with you. I also have to say though that I see it from another point of view. Parents are allowed from the constitutional point of view to parent our children. Step parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, a parent's BFF, or even the daycare provider are not and should not be given that same right. If that happened we'd have everyone listed above all the way down to neighbors, schools, and people we don't even know thinking they can tell us what our children need and how we need to raise them.

Yep, SPs should have every right of a BP upon our marriage to a BP .... and we can and do. Even under the current screwed up systems. Fortunately for us this only extends for the length of our marriage to a BP. Which overall is a nice get outa jail free card.

I have every right that my DW and the SpermIdiot have, I refuse to settle for anything less than equity parent status. I am my wife's equity partner in life and I damned well will not accept anything less than equity parent status to any child who lives in or visits our/my home regardless of my genetic relationship to that kid.

I damned sure have superior parent status to my Skid's SpermIdiot. Not because the courts give it to me but because I TAKE IT!!!!!!

In court ... I have no standing. Judges have made it abundently clear that as a Sparent "(I) am not a party to case". This is when the fun starts. If I am not a party to the case then I provide ZERO information on my income. That really gets the bottom 10%ers of the legal profession morons on the Family Law bench wound up. "Sir, you must provide your income information so that CS can be set." "Your Honor :sick: You just ruled that I am not a party to the case. If I am not a party to the case, my income is irrelevent and is also "not a party to the case" you can't have it both ways. Either I am a party or I am not a party. So please make up your mind".

They turn all kinds of wild colors when I dump their own stupid shit back in their black robe covered laps.

Ultimately I have to provide my income information. But not before they threaten me with contempt. I have often thought seriously about refusing then having them put me in jail for contempt so I can haul their ignorant bottom 10%er asses all the way to the supreme court. But, I am not well off enough to afford that effort. So, I give my income info then take out a full page ad in the Judges local area newspaper outlining their stupid decisions and asking the voting public if they want the idiot making legal decisions that impact their community. This gets the elected idiot's attention in a hurry. It also forces them to recuse themselves from future hearings that has anything to do with my family.

What is really funny is how violently our own attorney reacted to my full page ad. She was petrified that the judge would hold it against her forever. Not my F-in problem. }:)

So, not only SHOULD we (Sparents) have equity legal standing in cases regarding our family (Skids included) we currently have significant standing ....... but only if we TAKE it.

In my layman's experience and opinion a family court judge only has immediate authority within their court room during a hearing. Once a ruling is made the judges control and influence extends only if one side or the other initiates further action.

Our power, standing and authority comes from how well as Sparents we understand the CO and how creatively we manage the Blended Family Oppostion using the CO. It is amazing to me how few people who are subject (or who's spouse is) to a Custody/Visitation/Support apperently never read it. Far fewer understand it or use it to manage the opposition. When you add in supplemental local jurisdictional rules governing Custody/Visitation/Support and State law around en-loco-parentis rights as Sparents, whether CSP or NCSP, we can pretty do what we want, when we want when the Skids are with us.

For the most part all the opposition can do is bitch and whine. Which ... again .... is not my problem. }:)

My job as my Skids dad is to raise him to be a viable adult and to protect his best interests. Often the people I have to protect him from are his SpermClan and , unfortuantely, the bottom 10%ers of the legal field that seem to gravitate to family law.

All IMHO of course.