Should our stepkids acknowledge our anniversaries?
This is an issue DH and I have disagreed about for years.
He feels they should acknowledge our anniversary. I don't because it often falls on BM's time. I don't want them to have to endure her wrath for acknowledging it, especially for doing so on her time.
As a kid, I always got my dad & stepmother an anniversary card to be polite. I got the card on my dad's time. I wasn't forced to but he did let me know it would be appreciated. Years later, despite my never having feltba great warmth towards her and after finding out she was the other woman, I still do it because I love my dad and feel it is the polite thing to do. My dad knows that I know about why he & Mom broke up. He told me with my mom. However, I always acknowledged his anniversary on his time, not my mom's.
Do you agree with my DH, or do you think they shouldn't recognize our anniversary, or should they do it but on our time and not their mother's?
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I would say
it depends on their ages.
No if they are under 18
but yes if they are over 18, but it's not a big deal to me.
I care more about how they treat us day to day when we see them than acknowledging anniversary.
If they are over 30 I would say YES, FOR SURE they should acknowldge it
but a card would do. No gifts would be required.
Yeah,
I agree with that. I especially feel that if they've been victims of PAS, then they shouldn't have to do this. My SDs have been victimized by some pretty severe PAS.
Yeah,
I agree with that. I especially feel that if they've been victims of PAS, then they shouldn't have to do this. My SDs have been victimized by some pretty severe PAS.
Yeah,
I agree with that. I especially feel that if they've been victims of PAS, then they shouldn't have to do this. My SDs have been victimized by some pretty severe PAS.
Yeah,
I agree with that. I especially feel that if they've been victims of PAS, then they shouldn't have to do this. My SDs have been victimized by some pretty severe PAS.
They should but on your time
They should but on your time IMO.
I don't think it's a kids
I don't think it's a kids responsibility to acknowledge their parents anniversary at all. I feel like that's our special day and we should celebrate it but it's not something that should be a family celebration. We never were expected to do anything for my parents when I was a kid, I probably told them "Happy anniversary" but other than that nothing.
I think anniversaries(unless were talking about a 30th, 50th, or 75th) are to be celebrated by the couple. I don't expect my other family to do anything for me and my husband on our anniversary
I agree with you
I think that its not important to make an issue of for the kids during BM time. It is DH special day to share with you.
this is true too
that is a special day between the parties involved, I never acknowledged my grandparents anniversary and they were married like 60 years.
Although the landmark ones... 25, 30, 50 are the main ones. I think any kid over 30 should acknowledge landmark ones with at least a Happy anniversary"
I did help with the 50th wedding ann. of grandparents. Landmark ann. are to be celebrated by friends and family, not just the couple involved.
Did you know? the USA presidents office sends a birthday card to anyone who has turned 80?
I dont know about now, but they ahve been doing that for awhile before Obama. My grandmother got one from the predsident HAPPY BIRTHDAY ! from Pres Bush and she hated Pres Bush and had a fit... haha