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Skids feelings and PAS/bashing from BM

Anon2009's picture

Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 10:14pm

We talk about PAS on here all the time, and how BMs often tell the kids stuff like "DH has SM and other kids now and doesn't need you."

I think a lot of skids might feel that way anyway. I know I felt those things as a kid.

I do think, though, that a lot of BMs make it worse by PAS. My mom wasn't (and isn't) a PASinator so I think that helped me overcome these feelings in the long run.

I don't think these feelings are always brought on by BMs. I think they do make them worse, though. What do you think?

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leladawn's picture

Submitted by leladawn on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 10:21pm

My bf's dd6 has actually come out and said to me "mommy said that daddy is sad when we're gone but he doesn't need to be because he has you!" I've also heard her say this to her sister before. I think its sick.

I agree, its a natural thing for kids to feel but parents can make it a whole lot worse with only a couple of words.. Or maybe even by not saying anything at all when they should..

"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy

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Submitted by leladawn on Fri, 04/02/2010 - 5:19pm

Agreed. Its child abuse, plain and simple

"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy

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Submitted by stepmom008 on Fri, 04/02/2010 - 6:16pm

Oh Lord - that reeks of Wilda & it makes me sick. Even for Easter, the woman ran out & bought SD this chair she wanted from one of the cheesiest kids clothing stores. A chair, for Easter! I'm sure it's tacky as all get out.

To me, Easter and Halloween are the candy holidays. I got her some candy & a few trinkets but nothing major. And most everything I got was from the dollar store. I did buy her a really cool flower pot b/c she got into gardening with me last summer so I thought she'd like growing something of her own from seed & taking care of it.

I just think the spoiling is completely out of control.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".