Not gonna happen, BM.
Our new & improved CO reads that NCP (DH) gets 2 2-week periods over the summer added to his normal EOWE/EOTuesday parenting time with 60 days advance notice. SD's b-day falls right in the middle of summer. CO also says that her birthday is to be spent with whichever parent has her that day (stupid I know, but I think these rules are made up by judges who have never had children).
So back in April, DH gave his 60 days notice & it included SD's b-day. Please note that my DH has not spent ONE birthday with his daughter since she was turned 1 (he & BM split up right after her 1st b-day). He was supposed to get her 3rd & 4th b-day as they would have fallen on his parenting days, but BM requested her summer vacation during her b-day week both years according to their old CO. DH agreed b/c BM convinced him that was the ONLY week she could take her vacay & he is (usually) not a dick.
Anyway, as soon as BM got his notice, she immediately e-mailed that SD's b-day was hers this year & he couldn't have it. She also claimed that his EOWE/EOTues. did not continue during the summer. We did not reply.
A few days later, BM e-mails again, this time giving us HER 2 2-week periods. They, of course, overlapped DH's chosen weeks. Uh, no BM, we get 4 weeks plus our EOWE/EOTues. You get whatever is left over.
We confirmed all this with our attorney. He even said we could take SD for her b-day every year if we wanted, not that we ever would. We still haven't replied to BM }:)
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Don't you just love how BMs
Don't you just love how BMs think they can interpret COs only to their own advantage? Our BM does this constantly to DH. I keep telling him when he goes to court for things like this he needs to make sure things are very specific and if the judge gets pissy explain that if its not specific she just does whatever the hell she wants. Somehow last year she managed to get the wrong "parenting plan" in place for thee summer and screwed us out of so much time. We had to get a lawyer to get it corrected and we still don't know how the hell the papers changed between the court room and the little room where the give you your copies. It came time for what we thought was our time to pick SD up when she was done with school for the summer and BM was like "look at your fuckin paperwork asshole, you only get 2 nights" WTF! Needless to say a new summer schedule is in place for this summer and being its 2 1/2 wks here then 2 there then 2 1/2 here, etc there is no more weeks vacation time. Vacas must be done during your own time, but SDs b-day falls near the end of the summer and usually they get every other yr but being they agreed all school schedule rules do not apply during summer schedule Im sure she will try and make it work to her advantage and just say well all b-day/holidays on my time are mine blah, blah, blah. I think specifics are key in COs when dealing with BMs like these. (now if only DH would listen to me when I tell him this...lol)
Yes, we just got done with a
Yes, we just got done with a 2 year long :jawdrop: court battle this past January for that very reason. The old CO left way too much up for (BM's) interpretation. The new one is much more specific. But I guess either BM can't understand it or she thinks DH doesn't understand it so she'll just tell him what means. That used to work back before DH met me & couldn't be bothered to contact his attorney or fight back, but not anymore! Even the judge told us that we needed an airtight CO because "this woman is going to be a problem for the next 13 years."
And yes, I don't really understand where BM gets off trying to give us her dates that overlap the dates we already gave her. Does she really think that because she's the MOTHER, her choices automatically overrule DH's?? She is in for a rude awakening!
We tried mediation before court & she refused to negotiate. She would have been much better off. We were specifying every other b-day, one week on/one week off all summer, lots of stuff in her favor. She thought she could get DH to back down & she ended up getting screwed in court.
"Does she really think that
"Does she really think that because she's the MOTHER, her choices automatically overrule DH's??"
YES! This is exactly what they think! My DH and BM had to have an hour-long phone conversation about how the 1st, 3rd, 5th weekends were determined. She even called "the courts" and supposedly had spoken to someone that agreed with her. She tried to call them with DH on the line and the woman that answered told her that she had no idea who she was or what she was talking about. BM got flustered and hung up. We finally printed the family court calendar off the website and showed it to her to settle the discussion.
For some strange reason my
For some strange reason my DHs CO said T/Giving is a split holiday. As usual BM took the boys 2 hrs away to her parents in Podunkville. She had to be back by 2pm per CO.
2:30 = no kids. 3:30 = no kids. We had dinner waiting. DH called her parents house at 4:30pm and was told BM had gone shopping with her mother. WTH? And this far out there wasn't cell service. So DH politely asked his ex-FIL to get BM to call him when she got back.
She did and acted all confused. Since when was she expected to have the boys back to see him? DH reminded her that SHE got it added because SHE didn't want to miss one single T/Giving without her sons. DH was furious when she tried to act as if it wasn't a big deal. DH told her "OK, so you prepared to take time off work when I file contempt charges against you on Monday?" The kids were back in 2 hrs. But of course she had filled them up AGAIN before the drive home so our prepared dinner was a mess.
These women are only out for themselves. They do not care about fostering a relationship that causes the least grief for the kids.